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okay so i knew my bf did a little weed, but i really didnt think he did alot right. So at a movie he took me to, he was like what do you think of drugs? and i was like noo and hes like do you do them? i said no and hes like do you want to? and i was like no and hes like why? and i was like because i dont want to ! and hes like oh
so you know how today is 420 . national pot day right .. well my was talking to his friend in art and i am right beside them and so the friends like are you doing any pot today ? and my bf's like yea some tonight with a bunch of people you ? and his friend was like hell yea.. and i tried to make it look like i wasnt listening but i totaly was . and every lunch he goes to his other friends house and im pretty sure he does it there too
and i really dont want a bf thats a pot head. like if i text him one night i dont wanna wonder if he is high and he will remember what were talking about .. and i really dont wanna worry about him over dosing.. sso i really have no idea what to do! please help!
thanks love boys
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Okay well here's some good news that might make you feel a little bit better. You can't overdose on marijuana, and you can't die from it either. It's basically the safest drug out there. Before breaking up with your boyfriend, try talking to him. If he really cares about you then he should at least be willing to listen. Tell him that you don't really feel comfortable with him smoking weed. If he doesn't want to completely stop, see if maybe you can come to an agreement where he only smokes one day a week or just on the weekends. To be honest it's unlikely that he won't remember things you two discuss while he's high, and if he isn't really pressuring you to do it or treating you poorly because of it then it shouldn't be a problem. But, if you really aren't comfortable with him smoking and it's going to bother you, and if he refuses to come to any type of agreement with you, then he is basically choosing pot over you and you should consider breaking up with him. Hope this helps :)
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Ok i was in the same situation. Ive seen a lot of bad things happen to close people becuse of drugs and im not into them at all. Well i asked my boyfriend if he would quit for me, i said im not telling you to quit. and he said he would for me and has been clean ever since. But if you ask this to your bf becareful because he may tell you that he isnt when he really is and if he is look at his eyes and you can smell it on him too. So just talk to him and tell him how it makes you uncomfortable and if he cares about you he will understand. And i know that a lot of people say that weed isnt that bad and its honestly not but i dont care for it and i know how you feel. Hope i helped =] If you have any other questions feel free to go to my column and ask me personally.
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Honestly, weed is not that bad. Seriously. It's much safer than alcohol and cigarettes. Also, you cannot overdose from weed. Take it from an experienced smoker who has done thorough research over many years - it's not that big of a deal. Your boyfriend will remember what you were talking about the next day. Pot isn't how its like in the movies. You don't "trip out," or visually hallucinate things. But basically, in this situation, this is probably the least of your worries, unless he moves onto harder drugs like meth/crack, which he probably won't. Hope I helped!
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Take weed out of the equation for a moment. Are you still thinking about dumping him? If so, then do it. Otherwise don't.
Like the other people who answered this have pointed out, there have been no documented deaths from cannabis overdose. Unless he's doing stupid stuff like driving while stoned then there should be no problem. As for forgetting about things someone's said, I can do that perfectly well while I'm sober. If it's not been a problem yet it's unlikely to become one. Going to his friend's house every lunch to smoke weed probably isn't good for learning, but I can think of worse things he could do.
In summary, so long as he's not trying to pressure you into smoking weed (doesn't sound like he is), isn't doing stupid stuff, isn't into harder stuff (e.g. heroin or cocaine) and isn't sitting around like a useless idiot all the time, I can't see the problem.
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I'm going to correct Rahzie with a fact for you, first off.
There have been no reported deaths from overdose from THC (the active chemical on marijuana leaves) in the history of medicine. It is not possible through smoking to ingest enough THC to pose a health risk outside of the things done while intoxicated.
The only deaths recorded to having anything to do with marijuana involve things like intoxicated driving.
Drug habits at a young age aren't a good idea. Its difficult for teens to manage a substance habit with anything remotely resembling responsibility. His smoking pot during lunch (and probably before and after school) is evidence enough of that.
If you don't like it, walk away. Right now, its not a good idea, and its not an influence you need in your life.
Him smoking doesn't neccesarily make him a bad guy or anything, but it does make him a relatively stupid average teen. If you can be OK saying no, and he can be OK with your desire to not smoke yourself, that might work for you. If not, don't be afraid to walk from something you can't reconcile.
You don't really have to worry about him. The worst thing that happens to pot heads is they sit around doing nothing and turn into completely worthless people. If he shows signs of that, its time to move on.
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If you don't want to date someone who smokes pot, dump him.
Or you know, talk to him about.
Honestly though, if your boyfriend is smoking weed everyday at lunch, he's probably not going to stop it. If he really likes you, he might start lying about it, because deep down he knows that it's really up to him what he puts in his body but is unlikely to have the confidence to tell you so straight up.
Also: Iht might help you to know that it is damn near impossible to overdoes on pot. Pot doesn't kill many people. Being high and driving is a risky. Being high and taking other, harder drugs at the same time, is very dangerous. But pot by itself, whatever else your opinion of it may be (mines not terribly positive) isn't going to kill him.
And as far as him not remembering your conversations... well, if that hasn't been a problem yet, it's not really fair to assume the worst of him.
I'm coming full circle here and will end where I began: If you don't want to date someone who smokes pot, dump him. Not because he is going to hurt himself (he probably wont) or because he is going to be spacey on you (if he hasn't yet, why would he start?) but because it's just something that is important to you.
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