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cheating?
please don't go on about how im such a terrible person because i already know :( so the other night i went to a party with my friend and she left me alone to go hook up with some guy..i didn't know anyone at the party so i just started talking to this guy, i thought he was really nice but i didn't want anything more than to talk to him and be friends. i got a little crazy and ended up alone with him and he stuck his tongue in my mouth (wanting to makeout)and i pushed him away right away and said no. (the horrible thing is i let him kiss me because the only guy i ever kissed was my current boyfriend and not gonna lie i was kinda curious to see what another guy ksses like...i know, COMPLETE MISTAKE on my part) i'm absolutely completely in love with my boyfriend of 8 months and i would never ever ever want to be without him...would you consider this cheating? and what should i do? like this guy says he sees me at school and i don't want it to be awkward? and i wanna be friends with him, im a really friendly person, i just don't want anything more because i love my boyfriend so much. any advice? thanks so much.
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Well your not a horrible person. But you should tell your boyfriend, and play the cards your dealt with.
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I have to disagree with you, you are not a terrible person. You did make a mistake, and yes I would say that kissing someone else is cheating, but that dose not make you a terrible person. Now comes the question are you women enough to admitt that you were wrong? Not telling your boyfriend is the easy way out and he may never find out. However you will always know. Also what will happen if he does find out for some one else? You know that it was a mistake and you know that you love him and you know how he feels about you. In order to make your relationship the strongest it can be you need to have trust. He needs to know that you will always tell him when things go wrong. He needs to know how sorry you are. Tell him what happened, everything and ask if he can see himself staying with you. If he can't atleat you were honest with him because he deserves it.
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I would file this under "young and stupid, whatever" purely for the instinctive reaction.
Your judgment may be off a bit, but at least you've got your priorities in line deep down somewhere.
Most of the time I say the boyfriend deserves to know. In this case, its really not worth fucking up a relationship over. Learn your lesson and don't repeat it, beyond that just deal with it silently.
Though, you need to think about your need to be liked. People with a compulsion to be liked and the willingness to compromise themselves to get it get themselves into some very unfun fucked up situations.
Like now.
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Ever hear of the saying "Curiosity killed the cat." Well in this case you let it screw with your relationship.
I'm not going to call you a horrible person because your not. You just made a mistake by cheating on your boyfriend but at least you want to come clean now. Just tell your boyfriend you made a huge mistake and you kissed another guy. Tell him how sorry you are and that it will never happen again because you love and only want to be with him. Of course he'll have questions so answer them honestly and hope for the best.
And as for the guy you kissed I actually wouldn't recoommend you being friends with him. I don't think your boyfriend would like that. You don't have to cut him completely off but you should consider keeping you distance before you accidently make another 'mistake'.
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