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my dads cheating. && my mom doesnt know.
Background info: Recently my dad has Started webcaming with "people" he has met online. He says that they are "guys" from other countrys that are nice nd he just talks with.
the other night i was sitting in the living room watching t.v && on my computor. my dad was also in the living room on his computor on webcam. He coverd the side of his face and I saw him blow the camra a kiss TWICE!. && the night before someone had sent him a kissy message the ones that make a kissy sound. I dont care what anyone thinks but I consider this cheating. weather its emotional cheating or actual sex cheating its still cheating.
Now im positive my mom doesnt know about this but I cant be the one to tell her.
Background info on my mom: Shes really old almost sixty has battled cancer for 6 years and if I tell her thiis She WONT be able to handle it i just know that....
Question: What do I do. I don't know how to handle this information. all I could do was cry. I was so mad that he would have the nerve to do that with me in the room. I dont even know if there is a right answer to what i should do but this has really emotionaly screwd with me. I have bad enough trust isues in relationships and now I just feel like theres absolutely no hope! what do i dooo please help.
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As hard as it is for you to accept, your parents' relationship with each other is not your responsibility and not your business. The moment you get involved with your parent's marriage, you will find both of them resenting you: Dad will resent you for ratting him out, and Mom will resent you for being the bearer of such devastating news. You will get caught in the middle. What your dad is doing is wrong, but I'm mostly worried about you. Is there someone you trust that you can confide in? Someone close to the family might be able to give you more informed advice.
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I know exactly how you feel. My father has been cheating on my mother for about 5 years. My mother knows, and has known for a while, and is really mad about it.
I don't live with my parents anymore, but everytime I talk with my mom, I hear about how my father isn't sleeping at home, or something about it. I've never confronted my father simply because I am terrified of him, and it isn't my place to.
However, I think you should confront your father. I would usually not recommend to get involved with a problem like this since there's nothing you can do much to stop it, BUT maybe if you tell your father how you feel about what he's doing, he'll listen.
I would love to do the same with my father, but I rather not argue from where I live, or at all. I really hope things work out for you.
And if your father doesn't have the balls to tell your mother what he's up to, then you should. I know she shouldn't hear it from you, and that you feel the same way, but she deserves to know. If he isn't going to step up & be a man about it, then you tell her.
I hope this helps & I hope your situation clears up soon. Cheating is gross. :(
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Honestly, do not get involved in your parents relationship it really is not your problem. Well i mean its your problem, but getting involved is really not good. However you should confront your dad and tell him you know whats going on, and beg him not to lie, and explain to him how it feels and tell him he needs to be the one to tell your mom.
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Confront your father on what you've seen him do (IN PRIVATE) and tell him how you feel about it. Do it at a time when you are both free to discuss the issue. Perhaps he could take you out to lunch or go to a place where your mom won't be around and you have time to talk.
I would definitely make him aware of your view of the situation.
As far as your having trust issues in relationships....We usually pick partners that feel familiar to us. In other words, we choose partners that are like the family we grew up in. If there was suspicion between our parents, we'll tend to re-create that situation in our own lives because, frankly, it's comfortable. We know it and understand it. Not that it's healthy, unless we grew up in a healthy environment. That is why you will always see people who are in abusive relationships seek out abusive relationships and it's usually handed down generation after generation.
You'd be best off selecting partners who are the opposite of what you would normally pick and don't let infatuation be your guide. Infatuation doesn't last, a good solid relationship with someone you trust is worth it's weight in gold.
Confront you father.
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Well in my opinion, you should confront your dad and tell him that you know what he's up to and that its wrong, remind him of everything that your mom has gone through and how she needs to have a stable enviroment in his life. But make sure its really another woman before you confront him, otherwise its just going to be akward. Hope that helped!
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