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break ups
How do I get over him? It's been 3 months and I'm still struggling.
Female,14
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It's different for everyone. My first love was when I was fifteen, and I'm almost twenty now, and I can honestly say I never completely healed. We still talk, and he still can cause so much pain.
But there were other guys, one I was over five seconds after he broke up with me. I still am friends with him too.
You have to remember that you are very young, and there will be tons of guys. I know when I went through it I thought it was the end of the world, every memory went through my head all the time. Eventually I began to hate him, and started healing once I forgave him for hurting me.
Focus on other things, and try to remember that there will be tons more guys. It is what got me through each break up. You are too young to find the "one" now. Try not to get too serious too fast, you are young enjoy it. I regret getting serious so fast with all my boyfriends, because I missed out on the fun simple relationships.
Good luck.
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Usually it takes twice as long to get over it. So probably about 3-6 months before you really heal. If he was your first love. You probably won't ever really get over it because he was your first. Depending on exactly why you broke up in the first place you really do need to talk to him because you probably don't feel that resolved and you can't fully heal and move on unless you know exactly what went on so you don't make that same mistake in the future. And ask questions and make sure to get answers. Best thing to get over a breakup is hear an apology from a guy or the guy that hurt you. It's scientifically proven!
Good Luck ^_^
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Well, I have had some problems with this too.
This might sound really crazy,
But have you tried talking to him about how you feel?
Maybe you should just tell him. Even if he's not coming back, Maybe you should tell him how you feel. Maybe it will feel better.
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i know its not fun to hear, but youre only 15 so youre gonna have a ton of guys in your life. dont think about him, because if hes not comin back to you then you dont need him. do some stuff you like, like if youre into art or sports or anythin like that. do stuff for YOU, hang out with your girlies and talk to them about it. i promise youll find another guy sooner or later, so you might as well not sweat it til then.
be a kid have some fun! if you ever need to talk feel free to talk to me
x sweeethoney
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This is going to sound cliche but you have to be patient. I know its soo hard to go from being with someone, being so dependent on them, spending so much time with them, and then breaking up and being alone, and seeing all this spare time you have to that use to be spent with him. You have to preoccupy yourself with other things and find new interests to keep you busy. spending time with your friends is always good, going out and having a good time never hurts. you have to remember you were fine before him and youll be fine after him. good luck :)
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