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i wanna get my tongue pierced..
ive been wanting a tongue piercing for about two years now. it started when i noticed a lot of people had then, and how pretty they looked. even my favourite singer of my favourite band had one.
i asked my dad a year ago, and he didnt really like the idea of a large needle going through his daughters tongue. now, i asked him again, and he still doesnt like the idea, or the idea of my enamel being chipped to death, but i think hes going to let me anyways. he just said i needed to talk to my mom.
the only problem is my mom is way hardheaded, and she and i have never had a level of communication. compared the way she was when she was my age, im a total screw-up and shes a goodie goodie.
so i caved one day and asked her. as i suspected, she wouldnt listen to a thing i said and basically said no. she said she wanted to think about it. which usually means, she'll say no. but she didnt give me a good reason. she just thinks its gross because its a wound and bacteria can collect in there and whatnot.
i wanna know how i can get her to just stop fighting and listen to me. she never ever does and im tired of it.
thanks.
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You'll be 18 soon enough, and then you can pierce whatever you want. Just make sure you go to a professional, and never try to do something like this yourself or let a friend who *says* they know what they're doing take a "stab" at it. Follow appropriate aftercare steps. These things are important to avoid scarring. I'm not sure if this matters with your tongue, but with any other piercings they won't likely leave a scar if they are done correctly and taken care of correctly should you change your mind. And finally, be patient. I wanted a tattoo when I was sixteen, and I'm glad my parents wouldn't sign for it, because I can't imagine having the stupid thing I wanted on my body for the rest of my life.
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I dont know how old you are but you have to act completly adult when you talk to her. Not whiney but really mature and you have to make sure to state your case. You have to explain to your mom you are responcible and your not going to let yourself get an infection and if you do it will be your responcibilty to take care of it. You also have to remind her its your body and just because she doesnt like it, you are your own individual person who can make their own decisions and if you cant make it now how can you exspect to make them ever. Also you have to explain to her its not a fad it is something you have been thinking about for a long time and have done your research.
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Chin up - 18 will get here sooner than you think...but in the mean time...
You may need to do this in a note, if you and your mom don't have the communication lines that let you talk through it:
First, let your mom know you love her. Believe it or not, parents care that their kids love and respect them. Not that she will cave on what she thinks is the right parenting decision to ensure your love.
Second, remind her of all the things you do right: grades, curfew, not breaking rules, whatever community service/school activities you are involved in, etc. Let her know the high standards she and your dad set up help you be the kind of person that cares enough to succeed.
Third, tell her you understand it isn't something SHE would chose, but it is important to you. Remind her there are MUCH worse ways to express individuality - not that you are threatening to do something much worse, but in the big picture this is reversible and if handled correctly, safe.
Forth, let her know you appreciate that she loves you for who you are...
She still may not say yes...but at least what you wanted is considered.
Also, don't let your dad off the hook so quickly. It is easily for him to say 'maybe' knowing your mom will veto. Make sure he is really on board if mom says yes, or this could unexpectedly unravel.
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