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don't know what to do..
ok.. so i'm 19 and am in my first relationship ever, its been six months now, and just last week my boyfriend left for a job in another country. he says he wants to stay together and be together when he comes back in a year but it dosen't even seem like he cares at all.. he dosen't write me emails or anything, he can't call me because he said that he can't use his cell over there and it would cost way to much to call, however i looked it up and he could have used his cell over there if he paid a little extra.. and he tells me that he loves me a lot, he had an ex who did the same thing (take a job in another country) and so he knows how it feels but if he does and he loves me as much as he says why would he want to put me through that? anyways, i don't know what to do because this is my first boyfriend maybe i'm not really supposed to end up with him and i don't know.. i've just been such a mess lately and don't know if i can last a year feeling like this. anyways if anyone has any advice whatsoever please let me know, thanks in advance and thanks for actually taking the time to read this, i didn't mean for it to be this long
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Its time to move on.
Part of being in a relationship is tending to your partners needs. His avoidance of this, and treating contact with you like a chore isn't a good thing and says alot about him.
Its not about if hes the right guy or not. Thats not how it works. At any point in your life there are people you are compatible with. With enough work two people can forge a relationship that will endure.
I don't think you want to forge with this guy. You've got years to work out the right guy for you, and you shouldn't cling to this one because he's your first.
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Its only been a week. I know it seems like forever
already but give it a little time if you care for the guy.
For one thing it takes a while to get used to being in a new country with a new job. He is probably just getting settled in. If he has internet, look into skype. It is a cheap easy way to communicate and is probably cheaper than cell phone service.
If you love each other it can work out. If you want to move on you certainly can do that too. If you do care though, give it a chance to work. Talk to him about how you feel. Don't keep it bottled up. :)
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Firstly, you should do some research and see if he really IS in another country. The whole situation sounds like an escape from your relationship.
Secondly, said he had an ex who did the same thing? That's a bit ironic/unbelievable.
Thirdly, like I mentioned, it sounds like an escape from your relationship. If he's honestly been in your footsteps in the past, and really cared, he would have paid that extra.
I know it's your first relationship, and you may not want to leave him because of this, but trust me, it's for the best if you break it off and be single/date other people for a while. If you and this guy are really meant to be, then he will respect your decision, save you the pain, and let you enjoy the fact that he is away, rather than have you desperatly waiting, and feeling like crap.
I hope you make the smarter decision :)
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Dump him.
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Alright well, you are young... very young. To be 19 and only a 6mon. relathionship it isn't worth it. I am sorry to say. I have been in a similar postion and i would just get out of it. If he isn't writing or even emailing or anything. There are many fish in the sea. If ya know what I mean. I would end it and move on. I did that and it took me a while but found a wounderfull man and now we are married. I meet him when I was 18. Well, good luck!!!!! Oh, if it is meant to be then it will happen. Let it happen naturally though.
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