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party
okay well my boyfriend is having a party in two weeeks and i really am excited. The only bad thing is is that all his friends do drugs and drink. My boyfriend dosne't do these things but he still will allow it at his party. I have 2 problems
1. I cant tell my parents because they would not let me go if that stuff was going on there. i have never been to a party like this before so i am kinda nervous myself.
2. My friends are super good and won't come of there is drugs and alcohol there either so i will be by myself. My boyfriend is super popular and it is his party so he will be mingling with others there to. Not just me.
So what should i do?
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It could send an important message to others having party's if those who disapprove simply don't go to the party. If your boyfriend isn't into all that then allowing it is like a big "I'm OK with this".
It will also get him (and you) hauled to jail along with the rest if its found these things are going on and the party is busted.
You already know all this I'm sure. Be smart about
it. :)
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Don't go. Simple as that.
Explain why to your boyfriend, and plan a day together for just the two of you so he doesn't get hurt. Bake him cookies or a cake, or YOU take HIM out to dinner to make it up to him.
Edit: didn't say to make him cancel his party. Just don't go to it if you don't want to be in that environment.
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I am a 20 year old female (just to let you know) and I have been in your position before! When I was in high school I was honestly not really popular until my junior year when I started dating a real "party animal" (but really great guy (kind of like your boyfriend)). Anyway, I have never really been to a party and I didn't really know any of his friends. He decided to have a party at his house one weekend and I really didn't want to go, but I wanted to be with him. And just like you said I knew he would be socializing with his friends and such, but to be honest you should go. At his party there were drinking and drugs and everything, but no one ever was pressured to do anything and I actually met a lot of people that became to be life long friends! You should go to this party and then after that you should feel comfortable to go to more because I'm sure your boyfriend will have more parties and want to go to more. Just tell him how you feel and don't be embarrassed. He should understand. If you get there and within 30 minutes to an hour you are not feeling it then just have him take you home or whatever. But I really think you will end up enjoying yourself. Just don't get into the alcohol or drugs!! Good luck!
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Personally, I wouldn't go. It will probably make for somewhat of an awkward situation. A) You don't do drugs and drink and B) None of your friends will be there. You probably won't be comfortable there. Just explain the situation to your boyfriend, he will probably understand. If you fear he'll be angry, you are allowed to tell him you just need a girls night or something to that extent.
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