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all of my friends, or pretty much all of them, have hooked up with a guy/guys. I haven't. and they are all so pretty :[ AND DON'T TELL ME THAT I AM PRETTY BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW ME. i think im not appealing to guys. i don't have boobs. and actually, some of my friends don't either, but that's not the point ... i guess. I've had like ... 3 boyfriends. 2 were just flukes. one i really liked alot, but we only kissed, never hooked up. i guess i was scared? *because he has hooked up before* and then we broke up. but anyways, just the other day one of my "friends" was like ... well everyone has hooked up by now...duh. and i was like, no they havent, i know people who havent. and she was like, have you? and i lied. i said i did. because i didn't want to feel like a loser. because maybe i should have ALREADY hooked up with a guy. but again, no guys like me. and im only attracted to the ones who are out of my league, not available, or ex's. I DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG OR WHAT I AM DOING WRONG OR ANYTHING. any advice is appreciated. i guess. ugh. will it ever be my turn ?! ugh. and you don't have to tell me what i want to hear, im on this site for the truth. okay? thanks in advance.
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i know you want the truth. so here you go. i am pretty damn overweight. i dont wear bakinis, so its not like im calling myself fat and im 130..no no its much more than that.
the truth is this. next month will be my three YEAR anniversary with my bf, im 19 hes 20. my friends are sooo gorgeous like really reaaaally beautiful girls. yeah, they get the guys. but only a couple of them get the love. like my gorgeous friends get played , not taken seriously, etc.
so. dont get discouraged. dont feel pressured. when the right person comes along for you, you will know. just give it time. you are young! hang out with friends, enjoy being young, have fun! there is plenty of time for love.
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I know what it feels like to be the odd man out. Your friends are talking about their sex stories and what happened to them. I have always had pretty high standards and I didn't get a serious relationship until I was even 17.
Despite what your friends are doing, I don't think you should feel the need to jump right into some fling just so you can honestly say you've hooked up with someone.
This stuff takes time, and it needs to be that when you DO hook up with someone it's not some big joke. It's not as glamorous as it seems, and you aren't missing too much.
You aren't a loser, the right guy just hasn't come around yet. We all have flaws, and I think you're currently struggling with your confidence and blaming your physical features more or less on your not hooking up.
Believe me when I say that you should seriously do stuff with someone you care about, not just some random guy. Give it time and when you find that guy he'll love you regardless of your cup size.
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just tell every guy you see you want sex. one will sleep with you, guaranteed.
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OK firstly i was in your position at your age. Well i was almost 16, but still, i hadnt hooked up with a guy and all my friends were already sleeping around! I didnt have boobs for a long time either. I had alot of 'boyfriends' but we never did anything.
You just have to go for it. Put yourself out there. Alot of the time it isnt about what you look like on the outside, but what you have on the inside .. like personality. I know its cliche and everyone says it, but its true. If you're quiet and awkward guys will tend to pass you over for perhaps the more outgoing but slightly uglier friend.
Your friends probably dont mean to be nasty. I lied about not hooking up with guys for a long time and ended up pashing on with some random for the first time at a party cos my friends thought i had.
There isnt anything wrong with you. Dont stress about it. And dont be afraid to hook up with guys. Its not as hard as you probably think it is. And once you've found the right person ... someone whos a great kisser (like i have :-D) you just wont be able to stop!
It will be your turn. Just grab the bull by the horns and GO FOR IT!!! If you make a mistake the first time, laugh it off and go for it again!
Good luck!
katie
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