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I am 17/f(18 in june) years old. i have been dating a boy on and off for 3 years.. he is turning 20 in February. and i hate him o so bad these days... we fight about the stupidest things and we never go anywhere. he hates my friends and its not fair.. its just not right, i treat him like he is my son. i get him up and off to school because he is still in high school for the 3rd time in a row! he is a senior(as am i). i cant stand anything he does anymore and i never wanna be around him.. i always think of some excuse on why i don't wanna have sex with him and i just don't want to deal with it.. but i feel that it is my mission in life to get him to graduate finally. and i am going to do that. and he is graduating on Jan 15 and leaving Jan 16 to go to Las Vegas to see his best friend in the air force. i know i want to break up with him, i just don't know when and how to do it.. he has been my life for the past 3 years. i don't know how i could do that to him. i have hurt him so many times before but because of things that happened when we were not together for a moment. he is just always yelling at me and thinking i am cheating on him. he blames me for losing all his friends and not graduating his first year being a senior. he works sleeps and goes to school and sees me... that is his whole week. he is so stressed and i cant be with him anymore.. we remind me of my mom and dad who had been together since they were seventeen. and they fought and eventually got physical and my dad cheated on my mom and all this shit was going on and they started doing coke and my mom became a crackhead.(she is now 1 year and 4 months clean) i mean i have had a hard life. and i do not plan on reliving it.......** but about 6 months ago i met this girl she instantly became my best friend (shes 20)... she is amazing. i mean her personality is amazing. shes beautiful and she treats me better than anyone has treated me before. i care about her so much. i cant stop thinking about her. i missed her so much when she left for Maine. she was gone for a week and she told me she was pretty sure she loves me. and im pretty sure i feel the same. is it a bad thing that i like her? i never liked a girl before. any advice on how i should act on all this? sorry its really long but i feel a lot better now that its all out.
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Wow.
That was one hell of a rambling tangenting diatribe.
You two sound like you're both terrible for each other, and terrible at dealing with stress. If the second problem were fixed maybe the first wouldn't be so bad, but as it stands if you actively don't want this relationship anymore its time to break it off. Nothing is going to get better if you don't want it to and it will most definitely get worse.
As to everything else... I have no real advice on how to handle your sexual identity crisis and familial issues. Try not to let it drive you insane.
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Your 17 and you have a choice.
You have a choice of what clothes you want to wear tommorow, you have a choice of which college you want to apply to, and you have a choice of who you want to date.
At your age you SHOULD be dating and trying new things... you shouldn't be tied down by some guy who blames you for his first go around as a senior (who did he blame his second time?)
Yes it will suck to cut him loose, but you just got to do it, you dont want to be stuck with him for a few more years unhappy and unfufilled and then just explode one awkward Thanksgiving dinner at his family's home. (Hey I know people, that's actually happened)
As for your other friend, I say rock and roll, just be careful to not use the word "love", it's over rated and it carries tones you guys may not want to use until you're sure.
have fun.. take pictures (just kidding)
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You're only young. Ditch the boyfriend cos he seems like a pig... experiment with the girl but make sure shes aware that you have never been with a girl before and your not sure if this is really how you are.
You're only 17... Live life... have fun. Dont spend your time stressing about a guy that can be replaced.
Just say, "look its not working for (INSERT REASON HERE) reason and i think we should break up. I dont mean to hurt you but my heart is not in it anymore (bla bla bla) i still love you in a way but i am just not in love with you"
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