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My boyfriend's Mom told him she doesn't want him seeing me anymore..
Our mutual "friends" apparently told her bad things about me, like, how I am "controlling" and yell at any other girl he talks to and other things apparently. I am not okay with this. Is there a way I can approach her about this? Through a letter? In person?
I will see her Wednesday (today is Monday) at a wrestling match. Her son (my boyfriend) is one of the star wrestlers and I am the manager. What can I do? Please help me. We have been dating on and off for the last 4 years. 16/f
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Did his mom 'suggest' that she didn't want him seeing you anymore or did she make it a rule?
Have you asked him what he intends to do about this?
His mom is entitled to her opinion that you are a bad person, and there is no reason for you to try and speak to her directly about that. It's your boyfriend you need to speak to. He is the one who needs to stand up for you and for his own choice to date you.
If he can't, or won't do that, then you are better off without him.
All you need to do it be polite and friendly to her. Expect your boyfriend to deal with the lies she has heard, and stand up for your relationship and his opinions about you.
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alright hun...the first thing you need to know is that most mothers are very protective of their sons and they never think any girl is good enough so all that matters is what he sais about it....does he mind? if he dosnt then i would just let her be and just try being as friendly as you can with her...even if you would like to tell her off....if he sees that your trying to get along with her....the other stuff wont matter
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First of all are you all thee things you
are being accused of being? If not you
will have to spend some time around her so
she can see for herself you are not.
If you are controlling and you do yell
at other girls who talk to him etc. You
will have to work on improving those things.
Otherwise, what they say is true and nobody
wants their son (or daughter)dating someone
with that attitude.
The only one who can really get through
to her would be her son. Your boyfriend will
have to stick up for you and do the talking
to her. If you do it, it may look like you
are indeed controlling things.
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Well first yo should see how your boyfriend feels, Make sure these things shes saying are not two sided and are only her thoughts. You might want to tell your boyfriend what you intend on doing and when it comes to talking to her, you basically need to mention that you and your boyfriend are happy together, and it might help if he is in the convedrsation, so he can talk for himself, and though she may think you put him up to doing it, she'll lay off a bit. But the overall thing is shes probably just over protective of him. Now if you boyfriend says theres some things you guys need to work on, you should probably delay that talk with his mom, and listen to what he says and if you really listen and backtrack for yourself, then its you who needs to make the decision to wether you need to change or forget about it. But basically its all a matter of compromise. Good luck!
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The best way that you can get in with your boyfriend's mother is to remember your place, she is his mother, therefore number one. Let her know that you love her son, but you respect her opinion, and ask her openly if she is noticing something that you don't see about yourself. If you have been with her son for four years, she must have known you for a long time, and she probably cares about you more than you realize. If you approach her as someone who could teach you a few things about life, she will probably jump on the opportunity. If you avoid her, she will draw her own conclusions. Also, if there is some truth to it, and you are a bit controlling, admit your faults, and tell her you will work on it.
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