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I think i was used...help
16/f
about two weekends ago i was at my friends house and her brother and his friend who are both freshman were there. we had a lot of fun and just watched movies and stuff, i met her brother and his friend there for the first time. well a week after that my friend told me that her brother's friend, jef, really liked me and said all of these things about me that i was really hot and had a good body ..he asked if she had any naked pictures of me, he asked as a joke but i think he was serious..that kind of make me ..eh. but anyways so then he asked for my number and it was good. then he never texted me so i was confused..so i went on facebook and IMed him then he was asking how far ive gone, and when i said 2nd i dont think he was too happy to hear that but whatever. then he asked if i liked him and i said yeah and he said its cool i dont know though ill have to think about it. and i read that and was just like uhm..what..so i asked and hes like just text me i got to go. so i did and he told me, "im too involved in school and basketball right now, i dont think having a girlfriend is that good for me" so basically, he broke up with me, and we werent even going out. which is so weird. i didnt even ask to go out with him. then a week later which was friday night, my friend, who is his best friend's sister, was over. and he saw that my status on facebook said, "with sarah" so he IMed me and was like sarah and i got so pissed. he didnt talk to me for a WEEK but now that sarahs over, he suddenly wants to talk through me, to sarah?! she doesnt even talk to him. so then whatever after a few pointless conversations we had i was like, "did you IM me to talk to sarah" and hes like, no why? and im like because you never talk to me and now that sarahs over you are..and hes like, what do you mean i talk to you everytime your on. and im like uh no you dont..but thats okay. and hes like fine ill talk to you then if thats ok with you. and i was just like uhh..its not my choice, you can do whatever you want. and then hes like, what do you mean do whatever you want? haha. and i was just like wow. thats not funny..no so im like, haha wow. and then he was like can i ask u a question? and im like yeah and hes like, do you stil like me cause adam said you did..(adam is sarahs brother who jef is friends with) and im like..how would adam know i dont even talk to adam. and hes like i dont know he was guessing i guess. do you? and im like well alright, i liked you a lot last week, but then i thought it was kind of weird how you made it out like you really liked me but then told me you didnt want to go out with me..and hes like, ok yeah im just kind of confused about stuff right now. and i was just like, thats fine but you didnt have to tell you didnt want to go out with me if you didnt want to. you kind of let me down, and i didnt even ask. and all he said was, sorry i mean your great. like..uhmm? what? so im just like yeah now you tell me, do you like me? and hes like, well i dont know not as much as i did..i kind of like someone else, and i only saw you that one time i dont know bout you. and i just wrote, okay. and hes like yeahh. and im like just promise me that next time we see eachother things wont be akward. because i mean your a cool kid like i dont want something like this to ruin it. and hes like, yeah no prob. and maybe if i get to know you better maybe well i dont know. and im like haha its fine i just dont want this whole thing to ruin a friendship, i hate it when that happens. and hes like, ok sure i got to go though so lets talk on the cell right now ok? and then he texted me and we talked about the movie step brothers then he said how much fun that night was when we all hung out togethor and then he said he had to go to sleep so i said night and then he never talked to me or texted me since then. i knew he was going to do that but whatever. so last night, i wandered onto his facebook..and some girl, wrote on his wall and was like, hey!! im staying up for you tonight so text me<3
and i was just like..what. youve got to be kidding me. and then she wrote again and put like a million hearts. like okay JEFF. wow way to lie to me like that and tell me that you didnt have time for a girlfeiend because of BASKETBALL. what a lie. that made me so angry. i cant believe him. and i know i shouldnt care but i do! like how could he do that to me! and shes a JUNIOR. he is a freshman. like come on. so then i kind of realized ..that he was basically planning on using me. because he did say things to me before about how he wants my body and wants to have good times with me. and i bet, he had this whole thing planned. he liked me, and this other girl. he asked both of us how far weve gone. he would chose the girl who went farther and was more flirty. obviously, not me. so then he planned that he would use the excuse of basketball, to get rid of the girl who wasnt planning on doing stuff with him. i mean it all makes sense now. and what a horrible thing to do to someone. karama goes around, i hope he knows that. he didnt care about me he just wanted to use me to see what he could get out of me. it just makes me so sad and angry and i dont know, how do i stop caring? how do i stop looking at his facebook. its just hard. i dont know how to get over him..and it also really sucks because the guys at my school..i dont really have any cute guys or anything that i talk to..so its almost like this was a chance, but now its all gone. now i have nothing, and it only lasted a day. what do i do to get over him and move on
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That was almost completely unreadable. Between the run on sentances, the pre-teen grammar and misuse of the word "like", and the completely rambling thought process making it impossible to determine what (if anything) in this diatribe is useful information...
Sad at 16...
Anyway. If you seek drama prompting people, be prepared to be buried in drama. Its that simple. You seem like someone who at least subconciously enjoys drama, thrives on it, and seeks it. Else you wouldn't be interested in the kind if idiotic 14 year old boys who ask you "how far you've been" and "if you have naked pictures"
Fix that. If you keep going for guys who are hot, stupid, and immature you're going to be back here next week with another one of these rants.
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Like ohmyjesus he was like and then i said and we were like...
Yeah. Freshmen in high school tend to be assholes. It's something that I assumed was figured out your freshman year.
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Wooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooow. Long Story. Your Lucky I Was Bored And Read It All. Honestly You Guys Never Even Knew Each Other. You Met Once And Talked For A Week. There Really Shouldnt Be To Much To Get Over. Seems Like Your Just Jealous That He Didnt Pick You. Find Someone Better And Show That You Dont Need Him.
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wow that was very long and in depth, my point of view on this would be that it could of been the fact he didnt know you that well and wanted to get to know you better before he got involved with you, but you were being a bit too invasive and meanwhile he was confused because there was another girl in his life that he knew better and has had his eye on who also felt/feels strongly about him.
ANYWAY YOUR ANSWER to move past him.
first off stop talking to him, at least so often, that makes things more difficult.
what i suggest you do is go out with your girl friends to a movie, mall etc scope out the guys there. there are plenty of boys out there your 16 you have so much life ahead of you which means lots of cute boys will cross your path, keep yourself busy. Think of it as you dont need a guy who is unsure of what he wants, you need someone who knows what they want, not a guy who goes around flirting with various girls. Try your best to keep your head high and realize you dont need a man to complete you, believe me. Keep yourself focused on your friends and other things at hand, maybe they will even have some cute guy friends you can meet that will blow this guy you met the other night out of the water. Keep your options open and dont commit to one guy too quickly. And in the end he'll be the one who wants you back, not you wanting him.
hopefully this helps you anything else please feel free to send it to my inbox.
Brittni
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