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best friend hitting on the boyfriend?
Firstly, I'm more after an opinion than advice. But any advice for this situation would be greatly appreciated.
Okay, so this is my first relationship. And I like to think of myself as not one who gets jealous easily. We're both open about people we find attractive and he's even said things to me people say I should feel jealous about, but I don't. Bottom line is, I think...well hope I don't get jealous easily. But I'm scared this is just jealousy talking in this situation.
I'm trying to keep this as vague as possible, because I'm terrified my friend mentioned or my boyfriend may stumble across this.
But basically, my friend hooked up with this guy. Everytime we hang out, she's usually all over him. Everyone comments on it. However lately she hasn't been. She has however, been hanging around my boyfriend a lot. I've been fine with it, afterall I'm around him a lot and she's my best friend. Plus they're friends too, so it's okay.
Anyway, today she was going to play a trick on this guy we don't like (Long story, he derserves it) she was going to be a slut, and then when he thinks he had a chance reject him. He is part of our group.
So she sluts herself up, BUT everytime me and my boyfriend pushed her to this guy she'd make an excuse. And the weird thing is that really made me WTF was as soon as the guy she was going to reject left, she was eager to approach him but was like "Oh, he's gone. Whoops....too late. Damn! Oh well..." she wasn't that disappointed.
Usually, I wouldn't care. But there are a few factors to that. My boyfriend showed her how to slut herself up. She seemed to enjoy it a bit too much...then because she slutted herself up, he paid extra attention to her (No comments about this, he apologised later on to me and some of it was joking around. However this is another reason why I don't think I'm a jealous person, he's like this.) and she seemed to enjoy the attention, A LOT.
Combine that with her doing a tiny flirting, and staying slutty even after the guy left until my boyfriend told her to cover up, it's starting to make me wonder if I'm just being a paranoid jealous girlfriend, or if she was hitting on him.
From these signs, do you think she was hitting on him, or do you think I'm just being jealous?
I'm NOT going to approach her about it, afterall some people flirt and not realise it. Hell, I'm guilty of that. But if she does it more and more, I will.
My boyfriend didn't mention anything after she left, but he did seem to do a lot of reassuring that I'm prettier than her, which is a sign he knew she was hitting on him.
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She was really flirting with him but you are trying to make yourself believe she wasnt.
and you do have a right to be jealous of that because one thats your best friend doing that and two you wouldnt be going out with him if you didnt mind that kind of behavior (that would just be a friendship)
your not the "jealous type" when something that major is happening. you have a great reason to be jealous especially since she is your best friend. just dont go above and beyond and start being paranoid about it.
all girls do flirt and sometimes arent aware of it but when you are that flirtatious you are doing it intentionally.
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Oh my gosh.
i think you already know the answer to this question.
Yes She IS.
im sorry,
but she is.
and she's gonna keep doing it,
so you better speak up now before things get worse,
and you start becoming the jelous type.
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