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Okay, me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a month and a half. He hasn't ever been over to my house before, i have been to his once. Well at first i was really nervous about him coming over and when i finally get the courage to ask him over, my mom tells me that when he comes over, i have to leave the door to my room open. This sucks. I'm not a whore at all and would not even think about doing "anything." My mom knows this too. She just wants to be sure. Anyways, i was planning on watching a movie in my room but i cant do that now because i have an two brothers, my step dad and my mom and if i leave the door open, you can see in my room from the kitchen (where everyone usually is) or the living room. I just can't have this. I don't liked to watched and it just adds to the pressure in the first place. What should i do? Thanks!
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Just want to let you know that a lot
of mothers, myself included, wouldn't
even think of allowing a boy anywhere
near their daughters bedroom. :)
If all you are doing is watching a movie
then having the door open won't be a
problem. Nobody is going to stand there
and get bored watching you watch a movie.
Trust me. They just want that feeling
of knowing that you know they CAN see you
should they glance that way.
Temptation would be great to get up to
some mischief with the door closed. Even
with the most angelic of teens, male or
female.
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Edit;
Oh, I see all you were looking for was a way to manipulate your parents, you didn't want to understand why they were doing it. Why I waste my time with 15 year old spoiled little girls I don't know. Say, next time you write, start off with 15/F/S/L/D, 15/Spoiled/Little/Debutant, I won't bother giving you any advice.
Original Advice;
1. It is not you she doesn't trust, it's him. 2. It is not proper to have a boy friend in your bedroom with the door closed. This goes way back, even to the point that a lady did not close their front door even, when she had a gentlemen caller. Imagine having to leave your apartment door open to the public as long as he was there. This was to keep others from talking about you, because everyone knows what goes on behind closed doors. You having brothers should know this all too well and they are the main reason that you should keep the door open. If you don't think that they will pick on you for a closed door and even spread nasty little rumors at school if you close your door, you really don't know boys very well. Save the hassle, this is not a battle you should fight.
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My parents are the same way. They're just assuring you don't do anything you'll regret. I can't really tell you much more than to tell them how you feel. However, when my boyfriend is over, I usually just realx with him in the living room and watch tv. Even though my dad and step-mom are watching, I find it to be really no big deal.
Maybe you could ask your mom/dad to maybe have your door half open. This way, the door will be open enough to make sure they can see you, but still enough for your own privacy (even though if they can see you, it doesn't feel much like privacy).
It's really not that bad, I think you're overthinking how he'll feel about the whole situation. But honestly, just tell him, "don't mind my parents...you know how parents can be...", I'm sure he'll understand.
You will be fine ! Don't Worry !
I hope I helped !
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