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brother
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i have a 4 year old brother. im scared of being a bad sister and scarring his views of me for life, but sometimes he is so annoying that i feel like really hurting him. when i explain he's being annoying he does the same thing any 4 year old boy would do... do it again.
it scares me and it makes me feel bad because i know he has no idea what hes doing wrong.
instead of hitting him what can i do to make him stop being annoying?
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He just wants you to play with him. Give him some attention he looks up to you and wants you to like him. my son he will be 2 and if i dont answer him right away he gets mad and starts getting into trouble and i have to tackle him and tickle him.
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Children are perceptive. He wants attention, and you don't give him enough (in his eyes)
He knows being annoying gets your attention.
Hug him. When you come home or before you leave, give him a hug. If he tries to hit you or something, sit him in your lap and wrap your arms around him. One of my best friends had a little cousin like that. He would hit people to get attention. When he tried it on her, she would sit him in her lap and hold his arms and just sit there hugging him watching TV or whatever.
He eventually would just come sit in her lap quietly and get hugged. Give him positive attention and he's going to want to return it. And when he annoys you unintentionally just try to remember he's youre cute little 4 year old brother. Kids do require large amounts of patience.
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When my siblings were bothering when I was younger I did something similar. I just learned to completely ignore them by locking myself in my room! Eventually they realized that the only way to gain my attention back was if they stopped being obnoxious. Once he gets older, he will understand not to by a nusaince anymore. In the meantime, you have to wait for that time to come.
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I agree with making some time for him to have some fun doing what he wants to do. Try a half hour a day or something. Then if he annoys you later you can say that because of his behaviour you don't want to play with him that day. Thus you as a big sister are teaching him the consequences of his actions.
Also, if he's getting positive attention from you, he may be less likely to seek bad attention from you.
I had a little brother growing up and I wish I had tried that more often. I do know when I was nice to him and spent time with him he would try and annoy me less.
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First off you have to understand that you can't actually stop a kid from being a kid. So much of being pesty is just human nature...he'll grow out of it.
BUT...it sounds to me like he's craving attention. Being annoying is the only way he knows to get you to notice him. If you rrally wanna calm him down, spend time with him. He wants to know he's more than your annoying little brother. He wants to be your friend.
Take some time out of your day to do something you can both enjoy. You might end up liking it, and you'll realize he start respecting you more. And the more time you spend together, the closer you'll get, and then you can Talk nicely with him about how he could still be playful without getting on your nerves.
Trust me it'll make things so much better. Kids understand friendship, so be his friend, and he'll treat you with the same respect.
I've got four siblings and we're all like best friends, but we also know how to respect each others space. That came from spending time with each other and becoming more than family.
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