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friend or play?
Okay, so i'm 14/f in highschool , freshie!!! haha, okay so anyway. at my school we have a freshman play and only freshman can try out. Well, this is my first play. In middle school you could do the musical, my friends did that but I can't sing so i didnt. My friend can't act. She sucks. Well I've never told her this(That would be mean!) But everyone knows that if your charecter is a name (Like Stacey, Jill, Laura etc) it's a bigger role then not a name (Nurse 1, Student 5 etc.) Well my friend got Fan 2. Shes mad at me because this is my first play and i got a 'lead'. she seems to think that if i didn't try out she would have gotten my part. However we don't know this for a fact. But, shes all mad at me. Am I wrong to not be bothered by this? Like, all the good people are cast and if i quit then i'm letting down a lot of people. On top of that...I don't want to quit. I want to do it. I want to start acting. She inssits shes not mad but i can tell she is and shes telling everyone that she is and that its all my fault. I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING TO LIKE SABOTAGE HER! I guess i'm good if i made it without experience and only one class. What do you think?
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She's jealous, as is common with all high school girls who have not yet... seen the light. (I'm a senior, but hey, my enlightenment was freshman year believe me). Anyways, if she's that mad, then she is probably dealing with some internal issues of inadequacy. She's not mad at you, she's mad at the person who picked you instead of her, and probably mad at herself to some degree even if she hasn't yet realized it. As for what you should do- play your part in the play. Have a good time. Try out wiht your friend again next time. Make sure that you emphasize the fact that you guys get to work on something together that you both like, and encourage her to go for the lead next time. It's too late to change anything now, so she can't stay mad at you- she probably will, but that's because like all girls our age she's an immature twit- we'll get over it someday.
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If your friend were to be really close than she would support you through this. Obviously it is something you really want and dropping out of the play if going to bring a lot of what ifs into you mind. Do the play and tell your friend that you hope this play doesnt interfer with your friendship but its something you would really like to do.
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well if you'll ask me
if you and your friend is really really close
i think you should choose your friend
i mean your friend is one in a million, you won't be able to find another friend like her and the play i don't think so.. i mean there's alot of play coming soon and besides you can always join other plays but if ur best friend is mad at you, you should talk to her and work things out together! :D
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Let it go and ignore it.
She is telling you she isn't mad. That means she probably knows she has no right to be mad.
You can't know exactly what she is telling other people. That is just gossip. But more importantly, they can see through her insults just as clearly as you can. It's about her pain and insecurities. Not about anything you did.
Just be her friend. She is dissapointed and hurt. It's understandable that might lash out a bit. Forgive her and move on with your life. Let her get over it on her own. It sounds like she knows she should.
Also, don't get a big head babe. There is very little space in community level theatre for ego. A big ego will make sure you don't get cast agian. Humble yourself and remember 'There are no small parts' because there AREN'T. It takes everyone, EVEN Fan 2. So don't waste time thinking about good you must be. Work hard instead.
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