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NOTHING BUT FIGHTING ENGAGED COUPLE
hello everyone, my fiance' and I got engaged this past summer because we do love each other. He proposed on the beach, but ALL we do is fight. We've been fighting since last january on and off but now we don't even get along. I bought us our own house and we now live together. We always just get into fights and we always cry. I just want our relationship to be happy again. He says I always "bitch" constantly (but he never cleans up after himself and never gives me hardly any affection) He told me recently that the dog treats him better then I do and he hates living with me. I can admit I can be somewhat controlling but it just hurts me that I never get any affection. We're both stubborn and try talking to each other about how we feel but nothing ever changes. Please give me advice about how to make my engagement better before we get married (this april!) I just can't marry someone who verbally abuses me a lot, but I love him, so please don't tell me to leave him! Thanks so much!
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Well, everybody goes through rough patches during their "almost" married life. It's normal. If i were you, I would be the bigger person (even if i didn't start anything) and when he comes home one day, have dinner ready for him, dress up a little, give a really big KISS and compliment him. He can't get mad if you do that. Then you will start getting along better. Don't give up, your just going through a stressful time right now! Have faith!!
Good luck!! Hope this helps!
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Try a marriage conselour,
However, I will give my full honest opinion it might not be what you wish to hear though...
If you can't stand each other, Can't live together than why be together? Try talking to him about how it makes you feel that you two aren't connecting well, That you don't feel loved and you feel like you two are drifting apart. You two could be fighting alot because of stress, I'm not saying it's the reason why but sometimes couples fight when they stress out. Try taking some time apart (maybe a few hours a day) Sometimes that helps. Do something you both enjoy doing together, Get out more and have fun.
Sorry I couldn't be much more of a help..
BahaiMa22
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Get your butt to counseling ASAP.
Even if he wont join you in couples counseling, go yourself.
You two are stuck in sick and destructive patterns. You wont get out of those by yourself. You are both behaving badly. No one is 'more right' then the other: You both need outside perspective and guidance. You need a professional to help mediate and teach you two to disagree in a way that wont destroy your relationship.
You can't do this by yourself, or by yourselves either. Get help NOW.
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