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college
so i am a senior in HS, applying to colleges and all that stuff .. and i'm already freaking out about leaving home and especially about making new friends!! like what happens if i dont make new friends at college i am a really shy person and it's hard for me to adjust to new things and i am so scared i wont be able to do it !! how can i make the whole making new friends thing easier ??
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think of this as a new begining!
the plus side is, you don't know anyone and they don't know you. you're all mature and won't judge the small stuff anymore.it'll be much easier to meet new people since you all have something in common, i mean, your going to that school for a reason :]. things may be hard at first, much like the begining of high school, but they have much more activities that you can do in college!join anything that interests you, i garentee you'll click with at least someone !
It's also a chance to change yourself. You don't have to be that shy girl anymore! the first step is to "Fake it until you make it";and when i say this, i mean to fake your confidence* until you start feeling so confident, you won't need to fake it anymore. To have confidence is to be outgoing, always smiling and open to makeing conversations with anyone :].Outgoing; as in not just asking one question to a person and then slowly nodding your head after they answer, then looking down at your assignment. You MUST keep the conversation going until it ends in a pleasent way; not awkward and silent!
You WILL have to PUSH yourself out of your shell, but being shy is just not an option. Theres no sign that says you can't start a conversation and talk to a total stranger in your class. They'll like how you approached them first as well, because believe it or not, they feel the same way as you :].
Adjusting takes time,but you're all in the same boat.Change all nerves on the first day into excitement! instead of saying "i'm so nervous,what if i make no friends?!" think "I'm so excited and i WILL make friends!" believing in yourself is the key,as corny as it sounds :P
all in all you should embrace this as an opportunity to change yourself to the person you want to be! it'll take time, but it's so worth it in the end :]
good luck! :D
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Making new friends can be difficult and scary. One thing to remember is that all the freshmen you will be going to college with are ALL scared and hoping to make new friends. Just be yourself and not phony. No matter what your personality is, everyone prefers real to phony.
You may want to try practicing before hand! Try it at your high school or church or local park or something. Just go up to someone and start a little conversation. If someone is walking a dog mention that the dog is cute or beautiful or whatever and let the conversation flow. Watch for signs though. If the person is obviously in a hurry and not interested in talking... don't be a stalker. I think this is the one time people would chose phony is over stalking!!!
One thing I do want you to have in the back of your mind though is that more than 40% of college students end up being overwhelmed, culture shocked, or home sick enough that they move back home and go to a school closer to home. Around 60% of college kids who leave during their first year end up going back to a different institution. Don't assume this will happen to you but realize that if it does, you are not alone. It is hard to leave home and it is okay and understandable if you want to go back.
The older and more mature you get (women do not psychologically mature until around 25) the easier it is to make friends. Experience also helps out. You may find during your first semester you may have difficulty but by your second you are such a pro at college life everything starts to fall into place.
Best of luck.
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