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Sex, Ciggarettes, And Cutting.
I have this bestfriend who I absolutely love to death. She's 14 years old. She started smoking at 13 and she won't stop. She will seriously do just about anything for ciggarettes. She smokes sooo much. She's always coughing, I told her that it's slowly killing her but she won't listen! She gets persuaded so easily. I'm afraid that next it's gonna be drugs. She hasn't had sex before, But she's done everything but that! And i'm afraid that soon she's gonna take the next step. She always sneaks around with guys who are WAAY older then her to the point where it's illegal. She also cuts for stupid reasons. Her parents know that she does and they didn't really do anything about it when they found out. The last time she cut herself was because her boyfriend didn't text her. It's ridiculous. How do I help lead my friend in the right direction? She's going down the wrong path and it's killing me.
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Talk to her parents.
Tell them what you told us. Tell them that their daughter is going down a self destructive path because she doesn't know any better and needs attention, structure, and discipline.
If nothing changes, speak to a school counselor.
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Tell her parents. If they don't listen, tell the school.
This will probably mean the end of your friendship, however, there is NOTHING else that you can do. You are her teenage friend, you can't make her do anything she doesn't want too, but there are people in her life who can, and you need to motivate them.
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Your friend is going to end up dead in a few years if she doesn't knock her shit off. That isn't the answer you want, but it's true.
14, and smoking? Chances are, you won't get her to stop. You need to just tell her what you said above to her face, have a serious talk & explain to her everything. If she doesn't care that she is killing herself, then you really shouldn't either. Drugs are usually the next step, and you can't stop this girl.
The sex there really isn't anything you can do but talk to her about it, your friend doesn't sound like she should be your friend, does she try to presure you into stuff?
You need to talk to her parents, or someone who cares about this kid, she is really going in the wrong direction, and if you can't help her, talk to your school cousler, a family member who cares for her, ANYONE.
K, I know a lot people cut themseleves, but because her boyfriend didn't TEXT her? That's a little under immature.
I don't even know what to tell you besides talk to her, or get her help. I hope this helped you, and your really a good friend for doing this. (:
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If you're friends parents aren't willing to listen then it's time to comfront an adult who will. Try talking to the school councelors, Call a hotline, or comfront another one of her family members. It sounds like she is heading for a dark road and making choices that could cost her a life, or future jail time.
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