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He needs help.
So I moved to Minnesota to live with a family friend while I finish up my senior year. Well the people I live with consist of A mom and her son. Her son is 19 almost 20 and he does absolutely nothing with his life. He dropped out of school his senior year and ever since that hes been wasting away at the computer. He won't find a job because hes never actually faced reality before, hes scared to even talk to a stranger on the phone. His mom doesn' know what to do shes never really forced him to do anything and now its to a point where she can't now if she tried. He throws fits and gets angry at her easily. He doesn't really have any friends anymore and hes beginning to show signs of severe depression by staying up in his room all day long in the dark playing a video game, and he doesn't enjoy things he used to love to do anymore like skateboarding. Hes threaten to kill himself in certain situations and thats another reason why his mom is scared to do something major about it. Hes not able to make it on his own, he won't go out anymore Neither of us just don't know what to do.
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It sounds like he needs to see a therapist. I was in a simular situation before. However, He needs to realize that if something ever happened to his parents how is he going to support himself? Where is he going to go? he needs to step away from the video games and the computer and face reality. Whether he is scared or not we all have to do it. The first step is to go out and find a job. If he is unable to do these things because his depression is so bad then I would suggest talking to his mother about getting him into a hospital.
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to the answer below me. if shes kicks him out and he is already talking about sucide that is going to happen. from what you have wrote he is depressed but i am not a doctor. He does need to see a doctor and their are ones that will come to your house and talk with him. he needs some one he can trust and feels he can trust to talk to. it sounds as if something happened his senior year of high school
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First he probably needs to see a doctor to rule
out depression. He may just be antisocial or lazy but he could be depressed too.
Once that is done nothing will change unless his mom gets a back bone & kicks him to the curb with an address to the nearest homeless shelter. She can give him 30 days to get a job and start contributing
to the household first. If he doesn't do that, curb time. Nothing motivates someone like having to for survival.
If he threatens to off himself, call a mental health facility or ER for advise but don't allow him to use that for sympathy.
I'd also take away all electronic toys until he is contributing to the electric bill.
Now is his mom going to do all that? Probably not.
It may be best for all for you to find a place to live that doesn't cause you so much frustration. :)
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