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how to fake my virginity.
ok so i live in a society where having sex is completely normal. i have had one sexual partner in my life and we were together for 3 years. we broke up a year ago and now i am currently engaged to a man i am head over heals in love with, the only problem is he thinks im a virgin. and if i do not bleed on my wedding night i am doomed for a divorce. we are both muslims and i need some advice on how i can fake my virginity for my wedding night. either by putting fake blood inside of me or any creams or pills that can make me bleed. Please give me advice fast my wedding is in october.
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I was curious to how it went! Plz let me know, cause I have a friend with the same problem and I wanted to know what did you do?
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I have the same problem...can u please answer how u solved it:(
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easy btw i dont know if your married yet or not but im looking for the same answer for a friend of mine have your period on your wedding night go on the pill and and work out when it at the lightest blood flow not too light he wont even know the pill will control the bleeding it wont be so heavy and when he enters you just pretend the pain is there and moan as if it really hurts cry of course and he wont even notice..as for him looking down there to see if the hymen is broken i dont think so thats the last thing he'd do he couldnt even tell anyway unless he was a doctor sorry guys..my g/friend is in the same position or check out the artificial hymen sound ok but if you get busted with that your in trouble then this way abit safer hold the blood in till he enters you and wallah! yea yea i know start a marriage off with honesty wat ppl say but hey its your cultur religion they have to understand your position its ur body why should he have a right to know what youv done with it in the past it had nothing to do with him, vise versa! im sure he wouldnt tell you about his past...goodluck hope all goes well or has gone well!
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hey i just saw your question. i am in the very same situation right now!
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I am sure you already heard this is a trust issue and your marriage will start out as a lie and blah blah blah.
I do not know your full situation so I cannot say such things.
The one thing I will say is that some women do not bleed when having sex for the first time. It is okay if you don't bleed and he won't notice a thing. If you haven't had sex in a year, chances are, you may bleed a little anyways because they say after 6 months, it is practically like being a virgin again. So most likely, you will bleed again and it will hurt a little and everything since it's been so long. I wouldn't put anything there to make it look like blood because if he finds out, then there's big problems.
Everything will be fine. Whether you bleed or don't bleed, I'm pretty sure the one thing he's not focused on is if you bleed or not. If he does mention it and you don't bleed, go online or show him a book to prove to him that you dont HAVE to bleed.
Here's a site that may help:
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Good luck and congrats!!!!
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all of these answers i am very well aware of. you just do not understand my culture nor can you be put in that kind of situation. if i told my husband then its not only a shame for me it is a shame for my family as well.. and since the wedding is already planned me telling him is not going to happen. thank you for your advice and i know you all mean nothing but the best and i am a very well educated women and i know all of the problems that may arise down the line but thats a risk i am going to have to take. i can NOT tell him. For the better of myself and my family. so that is not an option if it was i would have not posted this question. So more answers are needed. THanks.
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Why would you do something so stupid as to put fake blood inside you?! That is a hige mistake, however and even bigger mistake is not telling your future husband about your past. You've probably heard this a million times but trust builds a good foundation for the future. What happens when your doing something and he finds out later down the line? Do you want him to figure out your keeping secrets from him when you have a beatiful house and you are raising a family together? No, you need to tell him now! I know I would hate being lied to especially if its by my future husband. If you guys are really in love then love will have a way of working things out in the end. I can't stress this enough, you NEED to tell him now, before he finds out for himself or there will be major problems for your future together.
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I wouldn't go to such lengths. The hymen is no longer a sign of virginity. It can become stretched through masturbation, sports, and almost universally by tampons. This can be accompanied by a bit of bleeding but sometimes not.
If your husband isn't educated about this you can point him to any book or web site about human sexuality that will back this up. I know that your faith requires people to be pure. You have the choice above to skirt the truth or to tell him the truth.
If for some reason you think violence or harm will come if he finds out don't tell him and find yourself another partner. It doesn't matter what faith you belong to getting a divorce because one hymen has already been stretched is hard to swallow. If that's what would happen don't marry him.
I think honesty is always best if you can be. Mention that you were younger and didn't think about the future and being married then. It's your choice what to tell him about your sexual history.
If if there were creams and fake blood capsules available I wouldn't know where to find them. They wouldn't help you a single bit as the person could tell. Makeup, creams, fake blood aren't like the real fluids. I think you should relax and realize that your hymen can be stretched in a variety of ways and he has to educate himself to that effect. He might not notice either if you say nothing and don't make an issue of this.
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I understand that you made a mistake in your past but you need to tell your future husband. You need to tell him now, before the wedding, so he can decide what to do. He has the right to know about your past if you want him in your future.
The problem is that if it doesn't come out now, then it will come out later. Do you REALLY want it to come out when you two have been married for 10 years and have 3 beautiful children together? That will break your marriage then. You will hurt your children. You will have wasted 10 years by lying once. These things DO come out. This WILL come out, probably when you least expect it. You'll think, "Oh, there is NO way he will find out! I'm off the hook!" and magically something will happen and it will be told to your husband by someone else.
Which is worse: Having your future wife tell you about a mistake she made years ago or having a stranger tell you that your wife made a huge mistake before marrying you and didn't give trust you enough to tell you to your face?
Sit down and tell your future husband the truth. Let him know that you made a mistake in your past and that you knew he needed to know before the relationship went and further.
He may be able to get over this. Please don't make that decision for him. He may end up saying, "I know people make mistakes...we can work through this..." if you give him a little time after telling him.
If your guy right now knows you were in a relationship for three years prior to meeting him, he probably has an idea of what you've done with your past boyfriend. Keep in mind that your current guy is living in this society too. He knows what goes on around him and that people throw sex around like it's nothing.
If he's confronted you and asked you if you had sexual relations before and you told him no then now is the time to come clean before you're married. Tell him that you were very afraid he was going to be upset and didn't know how to tell him so you had to think. Tell him.
There is no way to fake your virginity without surgery, that costs quite a bit of money. There are no creams or pills that will make the hymen intact again. If you put blood in you and make it appear that you have bled he will find out when he sees that the hymen is not freshly torn (and guys DO look). If you end up doing this and tricking him--the truth WILL come out later, and do you REALLY think it'll be best to have to explain to him the trouble you went through to trick him? THAT will get you a divorce on the spot.
What's broken is broken. It's now time to come clean before you get in too deep.
Tell your fiancé.
Let him have time to figure things out.
He may handle this just fine for all you know.
Don't hide this. It is a huge mistake to hide it, trust me.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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