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Unappreciate.
So there's a guy i have been having sex with for about a month now. we're just friends with benefits. It started out that he would call me every night and we would talk about each others days blah blah blah. that was before we started having sex. anyways, now we don't talk at all. yeah i know that's how friends with benefits are "supposed" to be. and i'm fine with that. tonight i went to his house. we had sex big surprise. anyways, we barely said 2 sentences after. i tried to talk to him about football cause he plays and i got like short answers. the awkward conversation (if you would call it that) lasted like 10 minutes and he was like ok im going to sleep. i'm frickin going out of my way to sneak out of my house just to please him and he can't even have a conversation with me. am i in the wrong here? and no i don't like him in that way, i would just like a little respect.
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As far as he is concerned, you are a free hooker.
No, seriously. Its what he's treating you as. And you don't respect yourself enough here to realize that you're giving sex to a worthless selfish asshole who doesnt deserve it.
I hate the term "Friend with Benefits"
There is no such thing. Either you aren't friends, or someone wants more than just benefits. Thats how it works, every single time.
Next time make a guy date you before he gets in your pants, and buy a vibrator in the mean time.
Oh, and a lesson on guys.
Most guys will do the bare minimum to get laid.
If getting laid requires them to be a decent guy, they are more likely to be decent guys.
If it doesnt, they wont.
This is especially true in your age range when guys are still maturing, and learning what's expected. What ever happened to the days when getting laid was an accomplishment to be proud of because it meant you were worth something.
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He is slime. Maybe you thought it was working in the beginning and he was treating you half-decently, but now it is clear he was only doing that to get what he wanted and now that he had it, you are not even worth acting for. Consider this to be the very last time you ever put up with this kind of crap from anyone. I don't know what friends with benefits means to you, but it obviously does not mean the same thing to him. There is no friendship here and never was. Demand more than what you put up with even in the beginning with this creep, from the next guy. Looking back, maybe you will start seeing where you could have taken clues of what this really was to him and use this experience to avoid future mistakes. A booty call is never about friendship or respect. Why girls and some women ever started settling for this and accepting such low opinions of themselves is beyond me. When you learn to value yourself more, you will not ever let anyone treat you like trash, again. Don't waste another minute on this sleazeball and don't waste another minute blaming him either. You are the only one who can take control of her body and life. What you believe about yourself will manifest itself into reality in your life. Respect is not something others give you and they certainly can't take it away without your permission. To thine own self be true...respect yourself.
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A guy like that will never appreciate you or give you the respect you deserve.
Best thing you can do:
Tell him NO, and move on with your life.
Why go out of your way for someone who treats you like shit? Come on. You're better than all that.
ygs-30/f
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Friends with benefits is never a good
idea. He only sees you for the benefits.
He doesn't care enough to make you his
girlfriend. You're a warm place to get
off...that's it.
He isn't interested in being friendly
or even being your friend. He is using
you just for sex. You let him.
If you want respect stop sleeping
with the jerk. He doesn't see you
as someone to respect. Hes someone
he can go to so all the other girls
think hes a perfect gentleman.
Sorry for being so blunt but that's
the way it is. I think you know that
already.
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If he doesn't respect you don't sleep with him. That simple.
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