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something is wrong
i don't know what it is... i've tried virtually everything .... went to a counselor and all....
but yeah i am not sure what is wrong with me......... i am having difficulties describing what i am feeling... depression anxiety fear paranoia panic loneliness claustrophobia phobia of being alone! i don't know i am mixed up! its all together... please can anyone help?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
Everyday we all go through some type of struggles in our lives. What you need to do is make a list of both the positve and negative things going on in your life right now. Too many people will tell you how to live your life. The only person that should is yourself. You have to look at your life in its entirety. See things that work for you and help you make your life happy. Don't dwell in things that will bring you down because it will only lose your focus on what your life is and what it can be. To answer this there is nothing wrong with you. You are going through struggles we all go through. You are the one that can change that and make this for a great story to tell others who need to overcome the same problems. So my advice is to write your own story and make your life as happy as you want it to be. Remember you are the author of your own life and no one can take that away from you.
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I also suggest that you change your daily routine; however, I suggest you become more involved with the people around you.
Make your life meaningful.
Many people seem to be having this sort of problem now and I truly think that it's because we have lost the right path in life.
I don't mean this to be bad but I'm not sure how to put it: you need to start focusing on other people other than yourself all of the time. If you make your time useful and helpful to others, you will gain a sense of care about yourself. You will soon realize that you HELP others and that other people need and appreciate you.
Many people now are so busy with their own lives that they lose sight of what it is to be loving and caring. You see, knowing that you are helping others does great things for the self-imagine. You soon realize that you aren't useless and just a blob of flesh bobbing along through life.
It really seems that the problem is our current lifestyles. We no longer "have time" to help others. Nobody volunteers now because they feel that they should be paid money for their time. Nobody goes out of their way to show care for others because that time could be used for something else. Both of these are common and we're taught (it's drilled into our heads) that we are the most important in our lives. This is not true at all: the people surrounding us are the most important.
The people who surround you create your sense of belonging though. Those people help you to see yourself as useful. Those people are the ones that can show care back for you. Without those people, you aren't anything anymore.
The media keeps telling us to only worry about ourselves. Sure, it's find to tend to your own needs--but what happens when everyone is too busy with themselves? What happens when everyone stops worrying about caring for others? They become depressed, wondering why they don't belong somewhere and why they feel lost in society. That is what is happening to you, most likely, whether you realize it now or not.
What's strange is the more we focus on ourselves and stop helping others, the less we feel good about ourselves. As humans, we NEED interaction. We NEED acceptance. We NEED to know we are important in life. Most of all though, we desperately NEED to help others to gain all of that plus more.
I highly suggest that you stop focusing on yourself. Yes, still continue to get help but try to put your excess time/energy/efforts into others. Find places to volunteer regularly at.
You need to make more of your life. By giving to others, you are creating your sense of worth. You will soon realize that YOU DO make a difference and that people appreciate and care about you. You will realize that when you have to skip a volunteer day for a doctor's appointment that many of the people you have been helping will ask what happened to you--Ah-hah, there's your sense of belonging! You will begin to realize that being involved with the care of others can be very fulfilling spiritually.
Spend time at soup kitchens helping the hungry, volunteer at shelters, visit the elderly in homes so they're not as lonely (not everyone has visitors and just about everyone has neat stories to tell), read Bible passages to younger children, volunteer at local animal shelters, donate your time to what needs you, and do whatever you can with that time. You may even consider doing random acts of kindness:
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If you feel like you don't have time now--make time. Alter your daily schedules to fit a few hours in for volunteering. Instead of being on the computer for an hour, log in only for 15 minutes and do what you NEED to do. Instead of sitting at home for dinner every day, take one day a week to eat at the soup kitchen after volunteering there.
Focus on who needs you. In essence, this is all for YOU so this is important. Helping others will help you.
I suggest you grab a phone book and make a few calls. Sit down with a calendar and set up one or more days a week to volunteer your time at certain places. Don't stress yourself out trying to fit things into busy schedules, but move things around so that your schedule won't be hectic but will have the fulfilling volunteer time in it.
It isn't your fault that you feel this way. You have just been fooled all of these years into believing that you are number one. Relax and focus on taking time for others and you will eventually find what is missing, trust me.
After awhile these problems may fade off completely. First your depression and anxiety will fade. You will find comfort in the people you are helping and will not be lonely any longer. You will relax in stressful situations because you know you are needed and that you will make the right decision. In time, you will be better.
I hope you take my advice and improve your life before things get worse. If you have any further questions regarding this subject please feel free to ask me!
P.S. Anywhere you volunteer your time at, you will happily fit in :) I promise, you'll see.
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Perhaps if you are feeling things kinds of serious issue it might be smart to continue seeing a counselor and just talk to them. They are a professional after all, or at least they should be! From a logical stand point, I would simply recommend performing tasks that might help to release endorphins that make people happy. 1. Exercise 2. Chocolate. Seriously. Trying a new hobby. Trying writing a story or poetry or reading a new kind of book, pick several days a week to do a vigorous workout program. Something that will make you sweat will surely take your mind off of problems. Exercise = endorphins which can help to make you happier. If you are lonely and do not have enough friends then perhaps finding a club, whether online or in your community, of any kind to join could be good. So that way you can meet people with your own interests.
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