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Bad Choices. [Question for girls]
Well i go out alot and i usually go with a guy..
but for some reason i usually always end up paying for the guy and myself.. and i don't mind sometimes but all the time..? or just myself ..
i geuss it depends on the guy i choose but you as a girls.. does your man or "guy friend" pay for you or you pay for yourself?
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A man should pay for the date unless it is negotiated otherwise. It is supposed to be him feeding YOU and if you're paying for the food...well, you might as well have gone out and killed the chicken, made the noodles from scratch and cooked your own dinner. Splitting the bill is for friends, not someone who wants you. He is probably broke and unemployed. The date should pay and unless he is low on the IQ level, he knooows this. It is etiquette.
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I've been with guys who didn't pay for anything. It didn't work out with them for various reasons. I also noticed that these guys all seemed less caring of me and more feminine than manly.
My sweetie of a boyfriend pays for everything, everywhere we go. :) He also holds doors open for me and will help me in and out of cars. It's super nice that he helps me sit when we go out to dinner--pulling out my seat to me and gently sliding it up so I can get comfortable easily. He even did all of this before we actually started dating. I have gathered that I've snagged one of the few of these sorts of real men ;)
Maybe I'm a little old fashioned, but I think that's how things should be. Men are men and women are women and our roles, especially in dating, shouldn't be jumbled up. It leads to a lot of confusion, frustration, mixed signals, and embarrassment. Back years ago we didn't have to ask questions like this--we knew who was paying and that if it wasn't acceptable for the man to pay then we didn't go out to that specific place. We knew our roles as females.
A problem you may be facing is this:
Are you asking these guys out?
If you ask someone out, typically you are expected to pay. This is why only men asked women out years ago--things went smoother and there wasn't so much confusion. So, if you are asking your friends out then they are simply understanding the invitation as you are paying for them. If I invite one of my friends (though they are all female but in this day and age I suppose the males of today would apply to this situation) out to lunch then I know I am expected to pay for their lunch too. If there was a problem and I suddenly could not pay I would tell my friend before going out with her so she knew that she was then expected to buy her own lunch and would have the opportunity to suggest another place or another time.
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I don't think you should have to pay for your guy friends. Normally people pay for themselves, or if the guy offers to pay it then that happens. But don't feel like you have to pay for him, only offer if you want to.
My guy friends always pay for themselves, and sometimes they offer to pay for me.
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Normally, guys are "suppose" to pay. I don't see anything wrong in a woman paying every once in a while but everytime you go out is not right. If you go with a friend that you know doesn't really have the money, it's okay. But if you go with a guy that you know has the money but is just stingy with it, make him pay. When your in a relationship, guys normally always pay. But I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and if he takes me out to eat he always pays. But if it's my idea to go out, I always pay because it was my idea anyways. When your dating different people they should pay. When your in a relationship it's okay to pay SOMETIMES! Good luck.
x0*-Bryttnii
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My best guy friend always offers to pay. But usually I feel bad, so I help.
But if this is something you just dont want to talk to him about then think of something else for you do you.
If you live near the beach, go there! Or swimming at a local pool. Or just go to a park or on a little walk to talk. A picnic is a cute idea.
Romantic, too :]
although youd probably have to pay for food..
but you can say like "if you bring the what then ill bring the ever". Ya know?
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i don't see any reason why you should be paying those are some jerks. When I go out with my husband he always pays even though its both of our money, and if I go out to dinner with a friend thats a guy he pays, even when my own brother takes me out he pays, so I think you should put your foot down and make them pay, don't give them the option.... so if you are asking oh do you want me to pay thats part of your problem.
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I never ever have to pay.. whether going out with a friend or a boyfriend or date whatever...he is a guy!!! of course I offer to pay or to chip in but never has a guy let me pay as much as I insist. don't keep that habit girl, it aint right!!! well not all the time.
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