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breakup
hey, well im in 8th grade and i started dating this girl in 7th grade and weve been goin out for about 6 months. shes an awesome girl...but shes bigger than me, stronger than me, and can end my ENTIRE reputation of a nice guy. all of her friends are my friends and they are awesome too. but lately ive been feeling that i dont like her as much as i used to...and ive started likeing this other girl. but i dont wanna cheat on my current girl friend. theres nothing rong with my current girlfriend, but i jus dont wanna go out with her any more. we had a conversation awhile ago about how we wont be able to go out forever, but i think shes not ready to break up. but i am. and i would hate to make her mad...also she can ruin me at school. so my question is how to i break up with her without making her outraged and make her go off tellin things about me. any info would be awesome, im jus in a hard spot. thanks
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Well Look if you still date her and have no feelings for her that would make her more angry
i think you should just tell her
that would be pretty childish of her if she ruins your rep because you broke up with her i honeslty dont think she would do that,but even if she did who cares? you know who you are and you shouldnt care what others think becuase you kno who you are so the way you should break up with her just tell her the truth tel her that shes a great girl but tht you stopped having feelings for her and you think you both should just not be together anymore.hope i helped. :)
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wow! that is a tough situation that you're in. well I think you should tell your current gilfriend how you feel.like tell her u lost feelings for her and that you don't feel like being in a relationship right now.it would be better if you told her yourself rather than let her find out by other people.and if u keep going out with her, it would hurt her even more because you're with a girl you don't like and you're lying to yourself about who you really like.you're not only hurting her but you're also hurting yourself. so tell her how you feel and maybe she'll understand. tell her "I'm sorry but I don't think I wanna be in a relationship right now. and that I don't have the feelings I had for you before so I hope you understand." say something like that and tell me how it goes.
xoxoxo-I hoped I helped.
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Wow, sounds like you are in a really tough spot! First, you are right, it wouldn't serve any purpose to cheat on your current girlfriend, but at the same time it isn't good to stay with her if you aren't happy. Be straight up with her. Let her know that because you care about her, you wanted to be honest in saying that you don't think you have the same feelings for her that you did before. First, you have to understand that you aren't just helping yourself by ending this relationship, but that you are helping her too. Once you understand that, it will be easier to explain it to her. Whatever you do, don't lie, and don't give her some stupid line like "I don't deserve you, you deserve better, or it's not you it's me". Girls DON'T fall for these anymore! Tell her that you care about her, but only as a friend. Let her know that it would be unfair to you both to continue this relationship when there is not true chance for ultimate happiness.
Last but not least, don't worry about your reputation. Those who care about the way others few you shouldn't matter, and your true friends shouldn't care. I know that in 8th grade it seems that reputation is everything, but ultimately, you build that rep, noone else can. I wish you the best of luck and hope I helped you out a little bit. Let me know how things go and if you ever need to talk.
<3 Leslie
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