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Virginty?? Help me fast
Hey i'm 13 years of age and i am a girl. Im a virgine and i have an amazing boyfriend named Braden. And i want him tooo be my first and he know's so, i was hanginf out with him and he tried fingering me, he like barely touched me and it hurt so so much.. is that normal? But tonight we were going too havbe sex... So i need advice FAST!!!!! Thanks in advance. :D
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At 13, chances are your body and hormones are not finished developing - in fact, you're likely to be at the beginning or middle stages of everything getting sorted out. This means that you are not physically capable of enjoying sex as much as an older girl would be.
The risk of developing cervical cancer in the future also dramatically increases if you have sex at this age.
The amount of pain you felt when he tried to finger you is basically your body telling you all of the stuff above - when your body is mature, your are more physically capable of doing this stuff without it causing you pain or discomfort. Sex is supposed to feel good, remember!
It's awesome you've got a boyfriend you care this much about, and hopefully he returns the feeling. Sex should be something you have really thought carefully about, as well as being physically and emotionally ready. You deserve it to be really right, so if you are having any doubts this might mean you aren't quite ready.
If you feel you ARE ready emotionally, do please remember that sex is more enjoyable when your body is mature - and your first time should be as good as it can. If Braden really cares for you, then he won't want to do this if you say you want to wait for a bit.
I wish you the best.
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your way to young to be having sex its better to wait i lost my virginity at a young age and i realised it was a big mistake im not even with the person any more and its most likely you two wont be together for ever so if he that special then wait if hes meant to be your first then it will happen eventually when your both older and ready for that big of a commentment
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It is normal because you're a virgin, but if it hurts you and you are at ALL uncomfortable, don't have sex. I personally think you're too young, but you didn't ask for a lecture so I won't give you one.
But please, if you do have sex, practice SAFE sex.
-Laura (16-f)
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dont do ANYTHING your going to end up regretting.And something like this,you will definetly end up regretting.Youre only 13 and you have your whole life ahead of you.You should wait till your older cuz theres some things cant be fixed you know once you lose your virginity you cant magically get it back.Live your age your only 13,you can think about having sex when youre older and definetly more ready to make this big desicion.Young teens think about having sex but they dont think about the risk of the condem breaking,pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases that you can get.Wait till youre ready and till youre SURE this is the guy you wana give it to,just cuz you were with him for a while doesnt mean that hes prooven himself worthy of taking your virginity away,its a very precious thing!!!
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my opinion, YOU'RE JUST 13 GIRL! DONT RUSH! i know maybe he may seem right, but this kind of decition is reeealy drastic. once you do it, theres a higher chance you'll regret it. im only 14 and i know im not ready for even aproaching sex. my advice is that you think again, is it worth it? do youu really want to do that? what can happen? and all that stuff,
i really hope you are really sure of what you are going to do, because once you do, theres no going back
hope this helps,
xo,
S.
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You're not of legal age to have sex, however nomatter what if you do it , yes it hurts, some girls more then other.
HEALER
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Please take some more time and think more about this.
The only thing I can tell you is that you will regret it. I can actually promise you that what you think sex is going to be like, isn't what it is like. You will be very disappointed.
It is worth the wait until you are with the person you will be with for life. Otherwise you just go from one person to the next trying to find this "good" sex that people are always talking about... the kind you only get when you are in love. And love is something that absolutely NOBODY understands at 13. I know I didn't.
You probably won't listen, but if you do you will be happier. Be a kid as long as you can... because as soon as you lose that, it all slides downhill from there. :-)
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