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few questions about meeting and approaching guys
15/f
So, just a few questions.
Where are places I can go to meet guys, other than school?
How do I go about approaching them in different situations?
What can I do to make hot, single guys more likely to approach me?
How can I attract older guys?
Thanks, xxx
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Based on the phrasing of the question, spread your legs.
I wish I were kidding, but I'm not. The kind of girls who are looking for "hot, single guys" are the kind of girls who exchange sex for them, because thats what your "hot, single guys" are looking for. Especially in a 15 year old who has nothing much else to offer but attractiveness and sex.
Or, you could develop some standards, and ask things like "where do I find guys interested in the same things I am, who are intelligent and caring and mature"
Hot, single, older guys date girls your age for status and sex and not much else.
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Ok you can meet guys anywhere. Everywhere you go you can meet guys. They are everywhere. I think you should smile, girls look the best when they smile and show confidence. But I think things start off as friends and go from there. I think you should try to make friends with the guy first before you try to make all this stuff happen. Watch yourself too. Some guys out there are pigs, I mean seriously. Thats why you need to know the guy. Just try to look nice too. It will help. Good luck!
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Guys will approach you more if they see you notice them first. If there is a cute guy make sure to get eye contact and give him a flirty smile. That should give him the confidence to introduce himself.
I look at every time I'm out of the house as an opportunity to meet girls. There really is no special places. Just look at the world around you. They are everywhere.
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Well, as a guy, let me give you a few brief warnings.
You can meet ALL SORTS of guys, but are they the kind you want to know? You can go to bars, but is that the kind of guy you want to get to know? That is MUCH different than you having a guy you like and THEN you both go to a bar together! Much different!
Since you are 15 you are at least interested in knowing what is going on. Just be VERY AWARE that you are exactly as you perceive... naive, not aware of a lot of things, and in need of careful orientation in dating and making friends.
Your first fault, however, is in your term of wanting "...hot, single guys more likely to approach me...". Are you trying to get into trouble? Forget this "hot" crap, the entertainment media is really brainwashing young people into the wrong mentality!!!! That attitude will just get you pregnant, infected, or raped or even worse! That kind of description you made is "bar talk" mentality!!!!!
You want to attract older guys? Why? I realize girls like MORE MATURE GUYS... but "older" implies they know how to seduce you and then drop you like a cold potato as they move on to the next "piece of meat". Think I'm kidding?
You should be looking for FRIENDS !!!!! That is where the real romance happens! That is where that special life-long mate will come from! So look for guys you like, not guys who seem exciting and "older". Look for someone who is going to be a real friend, and if he really likes you, the romance will develop from there.
And where do you find guys like us????? Geeeze... we're all over the place! What do you like to do for fun? Many colleges teach how to sail boats, you could possibly like some guy you meet there! Do you like to participate in sports? Plenty of chances to meet GOOD guys there! Do you like to hike? Join a hiking club! You'll meet some guy who likes the same things you do! Gardening? Believe it or not, lots of guys whose parents got them into gardening kept doing it on their own! They attend flower shows NOT to see all of the pretty flowers, but to learn new techniques, new kinds of plants, so forth!
This is just the tip of the ice berg. But don't go out there looking for trouble, it's guaranteed you will find trouble. Look for a good guy and chances are you will find him looking for someone like you! And I'm saying that as a guy!!!!
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Try.. The beach? A fair? The Mall? populated Parks? fun centers...
I would have to say give a nice smile to them that gives them a hint, I think when a girl smiles it is the cutest thing imo for me, well if there smiling at me :S.
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make efforts to talk to him.
you might think its weird but hes not...
Im not sure on the older guy thing, um.. Act mature?
I find a lot of respect for a girl who act mature.. but not in a bitchy way. Bitches are turn offs.
if you act sleezy it will only attract the weirdo older creeps.
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I'm not that great at approaching guys. Since I'm so shy, I usually let them come to me. I found these very helpful:
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Cosmoplitan's always got some good stuff, but on Wiki How you can search "how to" pretty much anything. Hope they help you =].
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