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my boyfriend agian.
i know i posted something like this ealier
and everyones advice was good.
but all this stuff with my boyfriend is making me so sad. and its driving me crazy.
i dont have like any girls that are friends cause me and girls just dont get along
and every guy that i talk to tell me to just break up with him and of course a guy would tell me that cause they wanna get with me
but i know their serious casue they see how sad i am.
but i just cant break up with him. im too inlove with him and ill be ever sadder
but my boyfriend and me live in different states
so the only thing our relationship really relies on is talking and trust and communicating and all that. but we dont even do that.
hes the only person i can talk to for hours on the phone and hes the only person i perfer talking on the phone rather then texting
but somedays ill get a text saying i love you or what are you doing baby. and some days ill get a phone call which is normally at like 1 in the morning. when i should be sleeping..
ive confronted him before about how i felt about not talking and he changed that for a couple days this week. but today it just went downhill after i saw him comment that girl telling her shes cute and shes commented him back saying f*ucking hot.
and that bothers me soo much because ive told him how i felt about that and obviously he doesnt care. and today i commented him saying babbby and he commented me back saying hey booo text me.
so i did and then after like 2 texts he stopped texing me and then i texted him back saying i hate when you tell girls their cute you know how i feel but whatever bye. and of course i never got anything back.
i really dont know what he could be doing behind my back. he could be messing with other girls and its soo easy for him to do it too cause we live in different states.
hes suppose to come down on the 13th and im wondering if thats actually gonna happen because he cant even call me back when he says and keep simple promises so how can i count on him even coming up here?
things were never like this. he has changed so much.
im really sorry this is long. but i honeslty have no one to talk to. and i just need peoples advice.
im thinking about just not texting him or calling him and just gonna do my thing until he decides to talk to me. and i know he wont talk to me for awhile and ill end up texting him and he will just tell me like every excuse that hes busy with work or stuff.
someone help me. im confused and dont know what to do :[
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Okay, so I think I answered your last question, but I'll try to see if I can do anything to help here, if any of the situations have changed. And I hope things are getting better for you!
So you said things got better for a few days and then he just did it again. It's good that he listened to you for at least a little, but if he's going to go back to doing what he was doing before: What was the point in the big talk? It seems fine to give people chances, but he's completely ignoring the way you're feeling. It's really not fair at all to you. Just keep that in mind when you're telling him about this stuff. It's good that you texted him saying that to him. If he didn't text back because it annoyed him or something, that's on him; He deserved it, really!
It's obvious that he COULD be doing things behind your back. It dosen't sound like there's a lot of trust at this point, and I wouldn't blame you for being worried. You need to talk to him about these things. Make him tell you the truth. Even if he isn't doing anything with these girls, it sure does seem like there's something more than "friendly conversation" going on. It's all about how it looks, because that's all you can really go on at this point -- He needs to understand that.
For now, I'd say to wait and see how things go. See if he actually comes down on the 13th, and how things work then. See if the chemistry's still there, and if you guys can really talk about what's going on. That'd probably be something you should keep on a list of priorities for then. To at least mention how you're feeling. If he responds well, maybe give this whole thing a chance. Make sure you can trust him. Whether that be talking to him about it, or having him figure out on his own -- It's something you two really need out of this relationship.
If he ends up not coming or anything, really evaluate this relationship. Do you think it's going to really work out and last a while, sucessfully? Or would it save you a lot of hurt to break up now?
I'd say to wait for him to say something, really. It's really difficult, and it'll require LOADS of will power, but you can't be the only one trying to get this relationship to go somewhere. It dosen't sound like he's trying all that much. While the random sweet texts are nice and all, he should be the one to call first or something once in a while. And make sure you check if he's been busy on MySpace when he was supposed to be at work, or doing something else.
If he dosen't seem like he's being faithful, or dosen't care: Really think about things. Think about the future and everything else, and what would be best for you. While you're in love with him, there's a lot more out there, and it sounds like this love is a little mangled, in a way. =/
Just make sure you give things a little time, and patience. If things seem fine, go with that. But if they seem suspicious or wrong, you might have to have the strength to go ahead and do what's best for you..
XOXO
KAT.
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It dosen't really sound like there is trust in the relationship. It is very hard anyways to live in different states and maintain a good relationship at the same time. I would get mad if he said those things to other girls, and when you confronted him about it, he didn't say anything back so it sounds like he dosen't care. I would just break it off because if it is making you really sad and he isn't texting you back when you tell him your feelings, that isn't a very good boyfriend. If you have any other questions you can just ask me in my inbox and i would be glad to answer them. Let me know what happens. Good luck! I hope this helps!
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Trust me if he lives in another state break it off. You never know if who you're boyfriend really is if you have never sen him, And nd if he sent you a pic that could of come from any where. I have had the experience of having a boyfriend in another state. It didn't work out at all. And plus you don't know if he is dating someone else behind your back. Seriously if I was you I'd break it off.
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alright he lives in a whole different state i think you need to get over this guy i mean he probally wont be coming up and he wont talk to you so i say break up with him hes making you sad and angry and i know you know you need to break up with him so just do it already its the right thing to do at this point and it seems like he doesnt care so do yourself a favor and get out of this relationship
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