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i need to know if we should have sex or just wait
i love my boyfrined and we have been together for awhile but he is moving soon and i wont be able to see him after he moves so we talked about it and he agreed that we couldnt be together after he moved. we are both virgins and he told me he wanted me to be the one he lost it to. like im ok with it but i dont know if it would just make the break up harder or if it would be the same i just dont want to do something i might regret because i got to attached and cant let him go.....HELP
f/16
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I think it might not be the best idea. To do that might make you gain even more feelings for him and feel even more attached, which would just make the break up even harder. Having sex is a big step to take and a big choice to make, and I feel if you're really serious about this you might have to be more than just "ok" with it. In the end the decision is up to you, obviously, but you have to be alright with not seeing him after, which is difficult in any case esp. if it's your first time. Also if you already feel like you might regret it, it could be your subconscious trying to tell you something. If he's sure that you guys cant see each other after he moves, then it might be the best option to not make that big step with him so soon before he leaves.
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well you all are already so in love so have sex wont make things more difficult and it would be a memory that you two would share forever. you two would always be connect. so go for it. and remember no one ever forgets thier first :)
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if you love your bf, its ok to have sex even if you know that you guys dont have a future together. having sex wont effect the fact the you already love him. it will only show how much you love each other.
lori f/16
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Look if you love each other, you should try and make the long distance thing work. if you really love each other, distance should make no difference. make time to email, call, or visit each other, just don't give up on him and you if you really love each other. but if you can't make it work don't have sex with him! It makes your breakup harder, because you'll have an emotional and chemical bond with him. If you have sex with him, you'll be more attached to him and it makes everything harder for both of you.
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This is a difficult decision to make. On one hand, you could lose your virginity to someone you love and care about. On the other, you will be losing it to someone you know you don't have a future with.
It's incredibly likely that it will make the break up harder because sex with someone that you love forms a strong bond. If you don't think that you can deal with that, then don't do it. You will eventually meet someone else who you fall in love and have a future with, and you will probably regret not saving it for them.
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