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Stuck in between him and his girlfriend
I know it's long but please read... I need advice.
Hi I'm 17 f, and I've been talking to this boy for about 2 months out, and at the beginning he said he had a girlfriend and he wanted to talk to me as a friend but as time went on, of course we started liking each other. And now he tells me I'm the girl of dreams but like he doesnt know what to do because he has a girlfriend and he wrote me this really sweet love poem and he always tells me he loves me and he seems so serious but I can't tell. Then like I went to dinner with him for my birthday and he paid for my food and even got me the cheesecake he knew I liked and he kept kissing me on the cheek the whole night and hugging me and everything, he even told me he loved me in real life. But the thing is, I dont understand why he doesn't break up with his gf if he likes me so much? Am I supposed to just wait around or what? And I always try to talk about it with him but he always tries to change the subject and says he doesn't care about her and stuff. We talk on the phone like every night and he ALWAYS calls me, I never call him, but I'm getting so attached and really wanna be with him but what should I do?
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if he really loves u, then he wudda broken up with his gf. ur situation is ez: either he's taking advantage of u or hes taking advantage of his gf. or hes not taking either of seriously.
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Stop taking his calls.
You aren't stuck between him and his girlfriend.
You are letting him use you to cheat on his girlfriend.
You are doing exactly what he wants you to do. You are obessing over him and waiting for him. He gets to have you, and his girlfriend. He doesn't have to deal with the unpleasant and stressful parts of what he is doing. You, and his girlfriend, are the ones who get to feel worried and stressed out.
His behavoir is selfish and scummy.
There is no way to make his behavoir okay. There is no way to make it respectful or loving. It's just plain wrong.
Stop taking his calls. Tell him to get his act togeather if he is really interested in having something with you.
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This is a difficult situation to be in, and there are no easy solutions. It is never a good idea to be with someone who is attached- it means that he is pretty much cheating on his girlfriend. As the person below said, it really is a matter of either you or her. You need to talk to him about this and let him know exactly how you feel. You cannot come second to his girlfriend (or anyway, she shouldn't come second to you).
If a guy is willing to get involved with another girl while he is attached, that's a bad sign. He should be honest with his either you or his girlfriend, and stick to one girl. Even if you were to be the only one in his life, how do you know he wouldn't do the same to you? I am not saying that he is a cheater, but this is not a good sign. He should be mature enough to either call if off with his girlfriend, or to tell you it won't work out with you- one or the other. You need to be the strong one in this situation, and explain things to him. Still, try to keep in mind that him falling for you while he is still in a relationship with someone else is not a good sign.
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Aw, it seems like he's caught up in between both of YOU. He probably does really like you, but he might really like her & just doesn't want to hurt her feelings. Really, just sit him down and MAKE him listen to you. Let him know that your starting to really fall for him but you don't want to get hurt & that you're going to have to stop talking to him unless he breaks up with his girlfriend because it isn't fair to you at all. It's a pretty much "it's HER or ME" type of situation. He just needs someone to knock that into him and you need to do it. Don't let a guy lead you on like that. Be the dominant one & let him know what's up! ♥ Good luck!!!
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