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i hate my parents
i have a really bad relationship with my parents. i yell at them all the time and they yell at me. we fight constantly about stupid things. i feel bad about it and i want things to be better, but i dont know how to fix things. any advice?
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well, if you want things to be better you definetely do not hating them. and the first step would be to stop saying you hate them, and realize that they brought you here and have done all they can to love you and raise you the best that they can. teenagers and adults constantly butt heads but they really honestly do know what youre going through. my advice is to write down the things you love about them and think about the things you are thankful for that they have done for you. and tell them each day that you love them and when you feel a fight brewing, just take a deep breath and try to end it. try to get to knwo them as the people they really are instead of just your parents. find out about their past, their opinions, spend some fun time with them. youll find youve matured alot once all the fighting stops. just tell them how you feel and try to work it out the best way possible. parents will ALWAYS listen!
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this sorta happened to me. its not that i have a bad relationship with my parents, its just that they always get on my nerves a lot and they annoy me. but one time it got way out of hand, there was yelling and crying and i got so fed up with it i decided it was time to fix things... which is just like your case
during the time of the fight, we were not at home. we were on a trip with other friends and all of the parents went out while the kids went out. my parents called me and we fought over the phone. i got so fed up i hung up and never answered their calls. I felt so bad about doing it because i knew that to them it meant that i didnt want to have a healthy relationship with them. when i didnt answer, they tried texting me. the text messages were pretty harsh and next thing i knew... im typing down all of my feelings and everything that i have kept bottled up forever. and i sent it to them. few minutes later my parents send another text back saying "we're sorry. we didnt know you felt this way. next time this happens, we want you to express your feelings and let us know what you are feeling." from this day on (which was about a month ago) we didnt have those huge fights anymore. suurree.. we fought but it wasnt the really harsh fights like that one time. now, its like this, we would listen to each other and try to solve the problem and once it was solved we would forgive and forget.
maybe you just need to write them a note, text, email or whatever. dont you dare even think about what you are writing. just write and dont take a break to think. just keep on writing and empty out your feelings. dont think, just express
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If you don't want to sit down and talk with them and tell them that you feel bad about it, take the time to write each of them a letter about how you feel.
The letter might be a better idea, because then they would see how much you really want things to be different.
Then just leave the letter in their room of a morning so they'll see it.
Or you can help around the house, clean up a little everyday. & Ask what you could do to help a little more.
Hope i helped, let me know. =]
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