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im a freshman and i havent had a boyfriend
im going to be a freshman in high school and i havent had a boyfriend yet. pretty much all of my friends have. i feel like im doing something wrong, but i dont know what. is anyone else in this situation? or has been? i need adviceee. haha
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There's nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend until you're older. Relationships are pointless until you hit high school, anyways. How many people do you know who have been on an ACTUAL date? Chances are, not many. Just because your friends have had "boyfriends" and you haven't doesn't make you a loser or anything.
My guy friend, Jack, put it best:
"First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.
Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks."
-Laura. (16-f)
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sometimes its okay to not have a boyfriend. maybe later on in life you'll find someone special and have a relationship.
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Ok so you don't have a boyfriend and your a freshman. Well think about this there's a guy who is a freshman and doesn't have a girlfriend. All you need to do is get courage and just find that guy. You can find him. Just wait and look. For all you know he could be right next to you and you have not been looking for him.
Lifescomplicated
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Dear Freshman,
Speaking from personal experience, I also felt very behind most of my friends in the boyfriend department when I was a freshmen. Seeing other girls my age with boyfriends also gave me the impression I was doing something wrong. However, growing over the years has made me realize I couldn't have been more wrong.
Just read this quote from a woman who knows what she's talking about...
"Girls are like apples, the best ones are at the top of the tree. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones, because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead they just get the ones on the ground that aren't as good. Rotten apples, but easy. So the apples at the top think that something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. The apples just have to wait for the right boy to come along...the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree."
This quote couldn't be more true. Boys are just as afraid of rejection as we girls are. You obviously have an intimidating quality about you that get those boys worried that they won't be good enough for a girl like you! Just wait for the brave one who's willing to step up. Believe me, he'll come.
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