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birth control...
16/f dating a 17 yr old. my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost two months now but ive known him forever and im completely in love with him and he loves me. well my mom brought up birth control once before but i kind of blew it off because i didnt think i would need it. i mean my periods are very short and light and i didnt plan on having sex any time soon. but my boyfriend and i have been talking about it lately and i sort of want to with him. im a virgin so im pretty scared about my first time but idk how to ask my mom for birth control again. i dont want her to think im going to go have sex because i dont even know if i want to. but i want to have it on hand just in case. my mom and i arent close at all. we fight entirely too much but i need to have this. how should i ask her ? any advice would help. but please dont tell me im too young for this or anything, i know what the risks are and im prepared to take the responibility. thanks in advance.
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You have two (well actually, three) options here.
The first, and I'm only going to say it once - don't have sex. Not because you're too young, just because it's an option. Obviously that's not why you asked the question and I'm not going to push it on you. As we all know, in the end it is your decision. If you want to do it, you're going to.
So, your options for getting the birth control:
1. Try and break through to ask your mom. You can lie & tell her that your periods are getting worse and you want birth control. You can be up front and honest and tell her that you've been thinking about having sex and don't plan on doing it just yet but want to make sure you're prepared if you feel the time comes (to be honest with you, birth control doesn't work at its highest until you've been taking it for a while - your body needs to get used to it. This can take anywhere from 1-3 months).
Your second option is actually broken into two parts...
Make yourself a doctor appt. Tell your mom you don't feel well (at 16, I'm sure you don't still have your mom in the room with you while you see the doctor. If you do, ask her to go by yourself. Then you get your birth control prescription that way. The only complicated part of that is that you would have to pay for your birth control (if your mom saw the prescription, she would probably know what it is).
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Instead of going to see the doctor, you can probably get a friend to take you (or your boyfriend, or if you drive...) to planned parenthood or the local health department. They can help you, and it's usually free (or very cheap).
Now, my advice is to be honest with your mom. Yeah, she may freak out and want you to break up with him (my mom would throw such a fit & probably try to ground me), but at least you're being honest. And, on the brighter side, if she says no, you can still go to the health department/planned parenthood to get it yourself.
My request to you is not to let any obstacles stop you from getting your birth control. Even thought it's not 100% effective, it's 98-99% when used properly. If you only use a condom (and these are actually my stats from 4 years ago) then it's only 87-97% effective - IF USED PROPERLY!
Both are best. Condoms are one of those last minute things, I've always thought.
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hey, confused and in love
i'm 16/f too and i know where youa re comming fromm. things can be awkward with parents, expecially if you're not particularly close. in your case i think you should just come out and ask her to help you get it, just because she had already brought it up. she worst she coudl do is advise you against having sex but ultimatly it's your decision.
if you dont feel confortable asking her you can go to a clinic and get free birthcontrol pills or planned parenthood because they will provide you with low cost of free birthcontrol and will keep it confidential and not inform your parents.
good luck wiht everything :)
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