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Reasoning with my brother who thinks he's always right....
I have a big brother who's the type that never admits when he's wrong. In an argument, even if it's blatantly obvious that he's wrong, and even with other people in the room telling him that he's wrong, he will never admit it. He condemns me for trying to defend myself, and will even use hateful and hurtful words to try to win the argument. I try desperately not to let it bother me, but he gets me so angry and frustrated, I can't even get my words out correctly, and then he uses that to his advantage and brings me to my knees. I need help!
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Don't argue with him. When he tries to start an argument with you, just say something like "Alright, that's your opinion and that's fine." and walk away. Don't say anything else, just ignore it and walk out of the room.
Either that, or when an argument starts, let him say everything he needs to say first. Let him get it all out, and stay calm. Don't interrupt him, and don't be mean about what he says. Just hear him out, and then voice your opinion. Just remember to stay calm, and if you start feeling angry, take a deep breath and count to 5.
Hopefully, he'll grow out of this stage soon and you won't have this problem much longer.
-Laura. (16-f)
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Most men are like this, doesnt matter what the age.
Especially when they're young men. He'll hopefully grow up, but just try to ignore him. Boys always have to be right, and you'll learn this and soon come to terms with it. It happens very often... its not common at all. I guess men just have big egos. There were things my brother have said to me, that he hasn't even apologized for it yet, and maybe he never will. But I'm sure it hurts him everyday. Especially because hes a minister now. I wish you the very best.
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I've had the same problem, numerous times. So, I got fed up and I typed up a letter on Word, or notepad, telling him how much he's hurting me and that we're family; we shouldn't be acting this way. & That you love him but he shouldn't do this to you, it's usually over something stupid anyway. Then put it in his room or shove it under his door when he's not there or something.
He'll read it, and he should start to change.
If he doesn't, tell your parents it really hurts you.
Hope I helped, let me know. =]
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