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clingy guy
I went out on a first date with this guy. He is really nice and everything, but I'm not really looking for a relationship. During the date, he asked what I'm looking for and I explicitly said "nothing serious".
He has called me every day since the date (which was 4 days ago) and has even invited me to spend the night.
He's a nice guy and I wouldn't mind spending time with him, but I don't want a relationship with him and I don't want him calling all the time!
What do I do? I hate being mean to people.
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There is a certainly a fine line between being clear and being rude.
However years of costumer service have taught me that for the sake of being clear to somebody it can be worth it to be a bit rude.
Let him know clearly, agian, that you aren't interested in a relationship and aren't comfortable with the ammount of times he is calling you. If you don't want to spend the night with him, this would be a good time to state that plainly.
After that, only pick up calls you are willing to take. If he doesn't fall into line with your bounderies, tell him, as polietly as possible, that your friendship isn't working out.
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I don't suggest you lie to him, as others have advised.
What I do suggest is that you communicate with him about what you want. He won't be able to know what you want unless you tell him.
Next time he calls, be polite and answer the call. Let him know that you aren't looking for anything serious, as of right now.
And also, let him know you would rather he doesn't call as much [please try not to be rude xD]. Let him also know that if you want to spend time with him, you'll let him know.
Communication is always key ;].
--Jack
(16/m)
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Just tell him that you really really do like him, but you don't want a relationship just now. Tell him that you want to just be friends for now.
Then, probably later in the future, it might be different!
:)
EX- like zoey and Chase? Off of Zoey101, they are just friends? But then the new show called 'Chasing Zoey", they end up kissing. And at the end of the show, they are together. :)
I really hope this helped!
:D
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well all i can really say is tell him that you arent interested in a realationship(sp?) right now. and tell him that you still want to date around. play the feild alittle. And tell him to try the same thing.
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I was in the same position, but i met the guy and he asked for my number and i gave it to him. since then he has been calling me 24/7. even at like 9 in the morning when im sleeping.
whenever he calls, i sometimes answer his call, i sometimes dont. and when i do answer his call, i say im on the other line with my friend ill talk to you later. or i say im doing something ill talk to you later. Just keep doing that, eventually hell understand that hes not worthy to you.
when you want to hang with him, YOU call him and ask him to hang out. don't let him ask you every time.
hope i helped<3
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you could make up an excuse to why you're not ready for a boyfriend or anything. like you just got out a bad relationship.
or you can be forward with him and just tell him how you feel. that doesn't always work thoughh.
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