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Waiting until marriage
I am 15/f. I deffinitaly(sp?) know that I want to wait until marriage to have sex. But I have a couple of questions. First question: So you know how like, all girls bleed their first time? Well just say you had just gotten married and go to a hotel room? You just bleed on their sheets or what? What do you do about that? Second question: Well, I've heard a lot of girls say that it hurts the first time you do it. Well, it's not very romatic if you had just got married and you can't "do it" because it hurts, so then what do you do? I've just been wondring this because it just seems like it would be akward when it happens. Sorry if these are weird questions. Thank you bunches!
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i didn't bleed and if you do who cares.
haha you don't have to clean it.
most people say it hurts really bad.
my first time i had tears in my eyes,
but now that i look back at it i liked the pain.
its natural, and hurts a little bit everytime when the guy is just putting it in.
its a good pain though.
some girls don't and some do.
well i hope i helped!
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I think that its cool that your waiting and i totally respect that. The times i have had sex i never bled. But everyone is differnt. If your husband knows that your a virgin he should be totally okay with you if you end up bleeding i mean after all, he should be glad you waited for him. It only hurts when your with someone who isnt respectful to your wishes. It doesnt really so much as hurt but you definatly feel pressure of you being tight and it being big. No worries though make sure that your husband is respectful to how you want it and how you feel so he can go as slow and gentle or as hard and fast as you want. Good Luck
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First of all, I'd like to say that I really admire your decision to wait until marriage to have sex. So many young women lose their virginity to the wrong person, or at the wrong time, and later to regret it. I know that I wish I had waited longer to become sexually active. Even if you change your mind as you get older, having that conviction to guide you right now can only be a good thing. The idea of waiting for the right person is highly under-rated and I admire a young person who has the courage to choose that, especially in a society that is so saturated with sex.
Anyways, on to your questions. It's actually not true that all girls bleed their first time. I didn't, and that was even with a previously unbroken hymen. The ones that do will normally only bleed a small amount, and some even bleed a few hours after the actual act.
Even if you do bleed on the bedsheets, don't worry about it. Hotels hire cleaning services for that purpose!
As for the question of hurting, I will say that my first time hurt A LOT. It took several different attempts on different days before my partner could even enter my fully. In fact, it continued to hurt every time I tried to have sex for nearly a month afterwards. I was examined by my doctor and found to be healthy, so I'm not sure what the reason for that was. However, that is not a common experience. Most girls only have to tolerate a small amount of pain.
I think a lot of the reason my first sexual experiences were so bad is because I was so nervous. There's no need to rush right to the sex, foreplay is your friend! The more aroused you are the more relaxed you become. If you're worried and scared, you will tend to clench your muscles unconsciously and it will be very difficult for him to enter without really hurting you. Furthermore, the more time you have to kiss and touch beforehand, the wetter you will get. The natural lubrication your body produces will help in to slide in more easily and decrease pain on your part. This also requires for you to feel relaxed and safe, so like I said before, the more you have leading up to the sex, the better it will be.
Lastly I'm gonna give you the little speech that I give every girl about losing her virginity. I really can not stress this part enough. USE LUBE. Sexual lubricant is not very expensive and it can be found at most grocery stores and drug stores. You don't have to go to some seedy sex shop to obtain it. If you are curious about what kinds of lube are best, a lot of people find water-based lube to be the safest and least likely to cause irritation. There are countless options when it comes to lube, and the only thing I would strongly reccomend avoiding is ones that contain glycerin or sugar, as this can cause yeast infections, bladder infections, and a series of other unpleasant afflictions.
Lube basically mimics the fluids your body will produce in smaller quantities, and you honestly can't use enough of it for your first time and beyond. The more you apply, the easier it will be for him to enter you. A lot of lube may decrease the sensation a bit for him, but that just means your first time will last longer and you will have more time to get used to the feeling and start to ENJOY it a bit! There's no reason that losing your virginity has to be a bad experience. Your body is made to experience and to enjoy sex, and with the right knowledge and tools you can help yourself to do that. :)
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Trust me these are not weird questions they just seem weird because most people keep them to themselves. ( Not that you did anything wrong or asking them is wrong).
Well First- Not all girls bleed the first time, I know I didn't bleed. I am not sure if it was because I broke my hymen early on or if it was just because my body was different. Some girls tear their hymen through over-stretching or sports.
Anyways, I know it seems weird to just bleed on the sheets and then just leave it, but you have to let it go. It isn't going to be much, maybe a few drops, but usually nothing more. If you do get it on the sheets, it will come out, but don't scrub it yourself. Hotels know that this sort of thing could happen and that it does happen. They will wash the sheets like usual and if it doesn't come out, they put on new ones.
Second- The first time is always a bit painful, but not to the point where you can't continue. Your body and vaginal walls have to adjust to the size of your partner and the natural tearing of the hymen. It will hurt for a few minutes, but it will be a dull pain, one that will fade as your body responds and recognizes the pleasure.
All girls worry about these things and once you have done it, you will laugh at yourself for worrying! Just relax!
Email me if you need anything ot just want to talk!
~*~Trinity~*~
P.S: I don't mind being rated :)
~*~Trinity~*~
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