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this is new to me
Well, i have this best friend who is a guy. we met a couple years ago and get along great. he recently asked if it was okay with me if we could be friends with benefits. i like him a lot and so i agreed. neither one of us really wants to date, and we want to see how this goes and maybe we'll hook up later. =]
well, the thing is, i've never really done this before. my question is...are there any kind of "rules" or "establishments" that follows being friends with benefits? i don't understand really how it goes. (and yes i've had bf's before so i'm not completely clueless). the idea is new to me, so i just need some info.
16/f
thanks. :)
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Honestly, friends with benefits is not the way to go. Someone's feelings always end up hurt. If you really like him, tell him you'd rather date than be friends with benefits. Because how would you feel, if you found out he was messing around with other girls? He'll just say "well, we're not dating so it shouldn't matter." Do you really want that? Friends with benefits does nothing but cause a lot of heartache and pain. Trust me on this one! ♥
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Well you already said that you guys both dont want to date
but it also means that you really cant get jealous if you see him doing stuff with other girls as well
Because one its none of your business and two he isnt yours
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Everyone sets their own rules.
You've already established the most important part- neither of you want to date, and you want to see how it goes. A common problem with this setup is that one party wants something more (i.e. a relationship) while the other just wants someone to make out with.
As for what you two do, that's completely your decision to make. Draw the line wherever you want, nothing we say will change your mind if you're set on it already. Keep in mind that if you have sex, one or both of you could easily become a lot more emotionally attached than you intended. Not to mention the risks involved with being sexually active [whether this means intercourse or just oral, there's still risks regardless if your relationship status] Actually, that could happen even if you don't sleep together. Just warning you in advance.
-LM
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You do everything a couple would do, but don't make yourself offical. Most times, it ends up with someone having feelings for someone and the other doesn't. Then the friendship ends completely, and the one who has feelings gets hurt. I've seen it happen plenty of times.
Hope I helped.
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Friends w. benefits basically means you kiss,hook up,hang out,but no more than that.You stay friends and never call yourselves a couple.
xo southern
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