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Confused f/m teen.
I have friends with a girl for a year. The next school year i met a new girl who became my best friend. My new best friend and my old best friend hate each other,and are always fussing over me. I am scared they will both end up hatting me! What do i do? Please help me.
thanks!
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Sounds like you are in a bit of a dilemma. Think about the route of the problem: what caused these girls to hate each other in the first place? honestly, i think you should talk to them seperately and try and figure out where the problem is. Whatever you do, dont choose a side because you will end up losing one of them :(
Another thing you could do is invite them both for pie without telling them and then they will both be there and will be forced to solve their problems... while eating pie! what could be better?
hope i helped and message me what happens.
~rae~
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Okay,
I think that you should deffinately tell them both that theyre being ridiculous and that if theyre really your friends, theyd out their fighting aside because its unfair to you.
Theyre not gunna end up hating you honey. They only get mad because they both want to be the center of your attention. These girls might even like you as more than a friend and be very jealous of eachother.
Good luckk .
<3 Hailey !!
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i think you should make them both realize how stupid their fighting is and what kind of position it puts you in. i suggest putting up an act with one of them,fight with her in front of your other friend (overexagerate), do it all day or until they both realize what you're doing and how bad how they been acting has been affecting you, if they don't realize what you're doing, just tell them. and tell them that they should try to get along for your sake.
or instead of a fake fight, just see them both at different times, don't take the other with the other. you'll have a better time just being with one at a time. and if she talks about the other one, just tell her you rather talk about her.
instead of my other suggestions:
it probably is because of jelousy, so just tell them both you like them equally, and it doesn't matter who was there first. get them together and try doing something fun that they'll both need to be involved in, like a fun game. they will start having fun together and might even laugh together. also tell them to try getting along because they might lose you if they don't.
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Do they even have a reason to hate each other? It really doesn't sound like they do, so they shouldn't go around fussing about you and hating one another for no reason. I'm guessing they're just being girls, because we suck and get jealous all too often and far too easily. Trust me, I'm a girl and I know firsthand about jealousy and guys.
I think you should talk to them. Let them know you value them both as a best friend, but you're sick of them not liking each other. Talk to them both seperately about it, and try to find out just what it is about the other that makes them dislike each other so much. This is a good first step, because you don't want to confront both of them about it together, as this could create an awkward and uncomfortable situation.
Then, try to plan a day for the 3 of you to hang out and for the 2 girls to get to know one another better, so that maybe they can become friends. Or at least, stop being enemies.
good luck! =]
-Laura. (16-f)
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