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Religion Mix
Ok, my parents are strict Catholics, My older brother(17) is 100% satanic, I'm a Buddhist and my sister finds any form of Religion disgusting.
Our house is all classical, with expensive furniture and so on, cause of my parents.
My room is minimalistic with a small shrine to Buddha. My brother's room is all black, and he does quite extreme Satanic stuff. Sorry, I don't know anything about it. But I have seen blood on the floor and so on.
My sister thinks anyone that people worship is s*it and so on. She's 14. She's constantly complaining about out religions and so on.
My parents hate my brother...they haven't talked for 4 years, since he discovered Satanism. My parents don't like to talk to me either.
And basically they ignore my sister. I get along with her ok, but that's when nothing to do with Religion is involved.
What could I do to make my home life better (15/F btw)
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Hi,
Has your family ever considered "family counseling"? If not than I would highly reccomend it. The strain on your familys relationship with eachother is terrible. You all need to find a place where you can stand on civil ground. Have a family discussion about what things you can do to try and get along better. You house seems like nothing but a battle ground. It is extremely unhealty for all of you. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but that doesnt mean you should hate another person because they dont agree with you. Try talking to you parents civily of course about ways that your family can grow closer together. Even the smallest things can bring a family closer together. And perhaps your example of showing kindness towards all of your family alike or not may influence others in your family to make an effort to at least find something to agree on.
I hope it helps.
Best of Luck to You and Your Family
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OH MY LANTA!
i am so sorry...
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Be respectful, be tolerant and open a dialogue.
Seriously. Your problem here isn't different beliefs per se, it's lack of respect for one another's beliefs.
You can't control your parents of course, but you can control your relationship with them, your respect for thier beliefs and MORE IMPORTANTLY THEN ANY OF THAT your relationship with your siblings and respect for THIER beliefs.
If you don't even know what your brother believes why would you let that stand in the way of sibling affection? Talk to him about what he thinks, what he calls himself (VERY, very few people actually consider themselves Satanists). Talk to your sister about her beliefs and opinions. Respect them, even if you disgree and don't try to convert them. Just ask intelligent questions.
This will let them know that you love and respect them, even though your don't feel the same way.
This approach might not work as well with your parents, but you shouldn't be letting your parents bad habits of religious intolerance and annoyed silience interfer with your ability to relate to your siblings.
So get up, walk to your nearest sibling and ASK THEM (don't 'tell them' anything) just ask them about thier own beliefs. Model the kind of respect, tolerance and loving interest in one another that your parents should have been doing and improve your own relationships. You'll be surprised the impact it might have on all the members of your family if you break the silent disaproval and cut through the misunderstandings and just let people have thier own say and opinion.
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Well, you can only do for yourself. Everyone would get along if religious differences were respected and set aside. You can't make your parents or siblings see it that way, but you can start it with yourself.
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I find it extraordinary how tense and difficult it must be in your household. I can't imagine how hard it must be for your parents to barely speak to any of you.
Your family is seriously lacking in communication. On one hand, your parents are disappointed that none of their children are following the religion they brought them up in, but on the other hand, you all have the right to follow whatever faith you choose.
I'm curious as to how often, if at all, this is discussed between the family. I think you really need to talk to your parents about this situation, because it can't be easy for them either. I would strongly advise that you discuss the possibility of some family councilling to help you all get along better.
You don't need to all follow the same religions, but this doesn't mean that you can't live and get along together. Personally, I am a Christian and have never had a problem getting on with people of other faiths.
I would also suggest that some additional councilling for your brother is considered, because the blood on the floor sounds incredibly worrying.
I really hope things get better for you and your family soon.
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