|
feeling lost and alone... sorry its long.
i dont know what to do... i just feel like my family doesnt car about me at the moment. my mum works night shift as a nurse so she is between working 10PM to 7AM, sleeping in the day and always watches tv in her room. when i ask her to take me somewhere she says
"i cant im working" or "ill think about it" or "im not up to it" theres always an excuse.
my sister lives in a granny flat out the back of my house and is never home and my other sister who im closer to stays at her bf's house all the time and is never home. like i dont see her all week and soon she is going away for work for 3 months and i feel like she is leaving me behind and when she used to be home more she was the only one who seemed to care and got me though when things where shit at school.
i just feel like no one is there for me and sometimes i dont feel like eating and that no one would care if i wasnt even there. lately iv been thinking about physically hurting myself so theyd notice and i dont know why.
i havent talked to friends at school cos i know they wouldnt understand.
i just feel alone and lost and i hate being left by myself at home all the time. what should i do? i need someone to talk to.
17/f
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Pain reminds one that they are alive, but you seem to be acting like you are not. Proactive, remember that word and look it up if you don't understand it. Get over the fact that your family thinks you are adult enough that they don't have to entertain you and do what you want to do. Have you tried spending time with them doing what they are doing. Jump in bed with your mom and watch TV with her. Don't tell her about poor little you not getting attention any more, in fact, don't say anything, let her tell you about poor little mom for a change. Family's grow and grow apart, it is the way of things, but they never stop loving. Stop trying to draw attention to yourself and pay attention to them for a change. Caring goes both ways, you want them to care about you, care about them and their day and their life and their problems, then maybe they will care more about yours.
Sorry if I seem harsh, it is not my intention, but sooner or later we all need to learn, it is not always about poor little me.
]
Hello,
The other advice you got was good.
Hurting yourself is bad. Very bad. It doesn't change anyone but you. Once the excitement you cause is gone everyone goes back to normal and you stay locked up in the hospital on suicide watch.
The best thing you can do is go right to your mom and tell her you want to get a car so that you will not need to be driven around by anyone. If she says no, then tell her you are getting a job and buying your own. Then go to all the places within walking distance of you and apply for jobs.
Are you the youngest? She is tired of working and tired of raising kids. You are almost old enough to move out on your own. Sounds to me like she is just waiting for that to happen.
Tell her that you don't feel like she loves you. Tell her that Dr. Laura would call her bad mother for not pouring every moment of her free time into taking care of her daughter. Tell her that you want more time with her.
Stop asking her to take you places. Be fair to her. She works hard to make ends meet. She needs to keep food, in a house so you have a full stomach and dry feet. Don't take what you do have for granted. There are a few people I know that would love to have the freedom you have. A house all to yourself. I could cook all day!
-- Stay Honest
]
Heyy, i went through something sort of like this as well. Sometimes, when your family is busy they don't give enough attention and it can be really tough. Having a mom that you barely see and sisters that aren't around can be frustrating.
You just have to remember that they really do love you and if you were to hurt yourself or "disappear" they would be devastated.
The fact that you're thinking about hurting yourself shows that you NEED to talk to someone. It's a good thing you wrote. You should let your mom or sisters know how lonely and neglected you feel, chances are they didn't realize how you're feeling.
It is really important to communicate with your family! Believe me, I know! If for some reason, things don't change after you speak with them, try talking to a friend to help you get through these hard times.
Also, remember that hurting yourself NEVER HELPS. All it will do is leave you feeling emotional AND physical pain. So please, don't hurt yourself.
If you ever feel like you might hurt yourself, call 911 immediately.
I really hope i helped and that things work out for the besttt.
]
More Questions: |