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In Love with my BFF
We have been friends since we met in pre-school. We were each other's first friend. We used to hang out all the time. Even though we were so different (I was super-shy and she was more of an outspoken person) we got along better than anyone else. But in school, they put us in classes according to our last name, and we always got separated. In junior high, she started hanging out with the more popular kids, but we were still friends. But then, she stopped hanging out with me, mainly because she was so busy - played about five different sports and dance lessons and babysitting on top of that - because her parents forced her. She hasn't been over to just 'hang out' at my house in about three years. We'll be in high school next year. I've realised that I love her, but the problem is, we're both girls. Her parents are very religious; they don't mind gays, just not near them. Also, in the past few years I've changed a lot...I'm more outspoken, and I suppose you could call me 'Goth' (though I hate labels). I don't get to see her much, but all this is making my head spin. I want to tell her, but I know that if I do, there is definately a strong chance I'll never see her again, and she'll hate me. Help is appriciated.
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Hi,
First of all let me say that the fact you both happen to be girls is not an issue, if anyone else has a problem with that to-hell with them, their not worth the time of day!
You miss this girl and you clearly have been very close so tell her you miss her, tell her you want your friendship back, talk to her. The difficult part is you want more than friendship - does she? Is she even gay? You need to be very careful (as I've said to many people in life before) not to destroy an important friendship in the pursuit of something more. However she may feel the same and if you don't ask you may never know.
I would advice re-igniting the friendship and spending some time together before you make the decision.
That decision has to be down to you but what I would say is, isn't it normally the things we don't do that we live to regret?
The very best of luck
Chan XX
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Mann!!!! MY BROTHER! our stories are so much the same!!!!
So mann, take it from me. Read the 4 noble turths
If you do you`ll get a whole new insight on how you talk and think with ppl. hence smarter. All your shyness will be in fact replaced with a logical super computer which is way happier. PLZ! I did the whole goth thing with the girl just like this.
And Know! 90% of the time when shyness is involed, it doesnt work. Your better off not acting for now.
1. its been awhile since yall talked, she might not like you like that!
2. if you are gonna win this, you need to make her fall in love with YOU!!! the ONLY WAY!!!!!
3. Need more advise save my page!
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Just be honest with her. If shes any type of a good friend, she will accept you for being , well you. Chances are she won't love you back, but at least you w ill let her know the truth. If you think she will hate you, let her. Chances are shes fake if she hates you for being anything but stright. Forget what her parents think, they can't force the girl to do anything, or how to pick her friends, or their religion, or their orentiation. It doesn't matterIf you're gay, lez, stright, bi, or anything else, forget what people have to say about you. If they hate you for you, more then likely their jealous. (: & If rumors go around highschool, let them. Just be you, & have fun no matter what. Highschool is a fun time if you get rid of labels, drama, & orentations. Best of luck; inbox me if you need more.
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