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I am friends with this girl, and all the time she cancels on me. We will make plans like a week in advance or spur of the moment and everytime it seems like she cancels. She always seems to be able to hang out with other people though. She comes from a low income family but we are good friends and she knows she can ask me for money. It is just getting really annoying how she cancels everytime. should i say something to her?? she obviously thinks this is not a problem and for everyone in the group, we are all getting annoyed. but she will turn around to her other friend and blame it all on us?!?! what should i do.
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Hey, my name is Faith42 and I think I can help you
I realy think you should talk to her just you and her . Does she ever call in advance to say if she
can't come? If she does she would want you know
and for you not to be mad at her! If she doesn't
I think she just realy wants to do her own thing .
You should ask her don't be like "Why do you keep
canceling our days to hangout"! Just have a good
covosation! Communication pretty much works out with
friends!
I hope I helped,
Faith42:)
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It isn't a good idea to make plans spur of the moment. It's a burden on parents to try to sort out plans with daily errands, family visits, or special events. If you still make plans, then stick to making them in advance.
On another note, you need to examine yourself as well. A friendship takes two. I understand how you're hurt by the cancelled plans, but you and your friends calling her annoying isn't all that great either. She may feel pressured and may talk to the other friend to try to get her opinion out. I don't think either of you understands what situations you both are in. It isn't good to talk about your friends behind their backs, but it isn't good to gain up on her either. It's mainly a situation between the two of you and the two of you alone. Have some one-on-one time with her. Just because someone can't hang out with you all the time, it doesn't mean they aren't your friend. If the one-on-one thing doesn't help, then maybe you two need to take a break from each other. Don't pressure your group of friends to follow your decision either. What relationship they have with your friend is strictly between them and her. If they say anything about it, just say that you don't want to talk about her when she isn't around since you might as well say it to her face...
Good luck with you friend! I hope it works out! Keep me posted!
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I, personally, wouldn't say anything to her. You don't know if she just can't afford to hang out with you guys. I know that always asking to borrow money can make a person feel REALLY bad. So, I think that you and your friends should keep her in your "group" but if you make plans with her be prepared that she might cancel. Also, just to stop her from even being able to cancel just don't make any plans with her. If she tells you that you guys don't hang out with her anymore. Just respond by saying well we just got upset that you always canceled on our plans. That is when you confonte her.
Hope I helped!
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