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another question for those experts
latley, me and my best friend have been drifting apart.
im usually not the jealous type;
actually i really never am
but this time; i have to admit...
i am jealous.
even how much that takes out of me.
my best friend, who i usually hang out with everyday and/or talk on the phone for 3478590 hours, is hanging with another person, someone who ive known ever since the 6th grade- a close friend but not best friend
ANYWAYS
theyve been hanging out alot latley
meaning NO phone calls and deffinatly no attention towards me.
lets call my best friend "Mary"
this has been happening for a week now; and its aggrivating me.
"Mary" would come up to me and tell me her fun time with - lets call her "Julie"- .."julie";
I would put on a fake smile and an occasional laugh- but deep inside it would hurt.
I only know why she would be telling me this- because she WANTS me to feel something.
Shes the jealous type-VERY JEALOUS and she has told me that she thinks i could be one.
Maybe she wants me to be jealous?
her NEW friend.
i knoooww we have other friends
but... coming to me to tell me your little party and bragging how her and "julie" had SUCH a great time on their sleepover... isnt such a positive thing about 'other friends'.
like today;
MARY: Hey what are you doing tonight?
ME: uhhh. hmm idont know yet?
MARY: oh im having another sleepover with JULIE; man it feels like ive been spending alot of time with that girl..
ME: hmph.thats..cool.
Why-- would you.. UGH
I HATE JEALOUSY.
ive never been fond of it myself;
but here i am giving it off.
advice?
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Hey, don't be mad or start to get jealous. Maybe your friend is mad at you and trying to get back at you. Just talk to her and if that doesn't work try hanging out with her and her new friend. It's okay to have more than one best friend.
Thanks and remeber to come back for more advice.
volunteergirl
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And the green eyed monster rears it's ugly head!
Well, as I've said before and I'll say again: "twos company threes a crowd".
Why do you think that "Mary" is doing this? You say that Mary says that you could be "the one"; by saying this, does she mean in a romantic way or as a best friend?
Have you hurt her in some way? For example, if she has a strong tendency towards you and you turned her down recently?
Have you been spending a lot of time with someone else?, and have you recently buddied up with another friend (or friends)- and she felt left out, even one time? Maybe "Mary" is trying to find a way to get you back? And obviously attempting to make you jealous!
Then again, maybe Mary is trying to make you jealous because she was feeling like you were ignoring her for a while.
OR maybe "Julie" is really trying to move in on your friend, she may even be trying to "get back at you" for something herself. Have you done something to 'Julie' that would make her want to take revenge on you??
Then again, there are just some people that are jealous of the closeness that two people have together, and so they will, just to have what you two had! These sort of people will go to your friend and speak ill about you behind your back!! Fortunately, 'friendships' like this rarely last.
If Mary really cares, then she is truly playing "head games"; in the hope that you will come "running back with your 'hat' in your hand"...and that is completely the wrong way to handle this.
Maybe it's time for YOU to find a new friend and "do unto her as she's done unto you". If she cares a fig, she will approach you and reconcile what you had!
At the very least, she would invite you to the sleepover too!!
Keep in touch and let me know how things are going.
Blessings!
Jasmine
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maybe she is trying to make you jealous. i would just ignore her, that or ask her what her if she is a lesbian by the way she talks about julie. That might get her to shut up about her. And plus it would give you giggles! :)
-hayley
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