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how to deal with a friend..
15/f
i know this is long but to whoever anaswers thanks a billion!
i know im young and im gonna meet a lot of ppl as i grow up, but my bestfriend and i are completely split apart. A few months ago we were super close and tahts when HER bestfriend was hanging out with someone else and completely ditched her in a way, so we got even closer.(we've been friends since we were 10)so now shes friends with her bestfriend again and now shes tlaking behind my back majorlyyy like she hates me. i know i have a lot of other friends but in a way i miss her, shes still my friend. but shes doing to me what her bestfriend did to her. and i know this for a fact, she runs around her bestfriend like shes a queen and tells her absolutely evertyghing.
thats the short version, its a lot more complicated taht that with boys and..other things related to taht, but thats waht im worried about. How i was there and now she completely ditches me fro something "better". im not even kidding she kisses her bestfriends ass, and when something happened with her and her boyfriend she went to everyone else BUT me. and apparently when i asked her to hang out the other day(for the first time since..december?)she went to her bestfriend and asked her how to get out of it she hates me itll be awkward,,and so on. and her bestfriend just laughed. see her bestfriend doesnt like me so much because she used to be jealous of how close me and my bestfriend are.
anyways the end..
haha sorry this is sort of confusing but i realllllly need help please!!
anyways im just asking if i should try to deal with this, but i know if i talk to her she'll go tell the other person no matter waht(weve gotten into many fights before) or if i should just let it go...
also..one big problem is that i feel like im losing myself thsi year, and shes moves on especially because she thinks shes a lot better than me and im like ntohing and worth nothing.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!
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Ever heard the saying "with friends like that who needs enemies"? Let her go. It's not fair to the friends who are TRULY there for you. You don't want to waste energy trying to bend over backwards for this person who seems she doesn't even care. Put that energy toward your current friends. You will find another best friend..one that is true to YOU! She'll soon realize what she left behind, but hopefully by then it will be too late for her. Don't play her games though. Don't try to make her mad or jealous, don't call her names..just don't acknowledge her existance at all! Good luck girl! Your friends are lucky to have someone so set on making a friendship work!
<3 Leslie
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Sounds to me like shes not much of a friend anyways. Treat her like shes been treating you. Find other friends that actually like you and want to hang out with you. Its natural that your going to miss her because you were so close but you need to ask yourself does the good out weigh the bad. You feel like your loosing yourself mainly because you just lost someone really close to you. Dont fret over it. Just take it for what it is and find someone new to hang out with. If she tries coming back to you after getting dumped by her supposed "best friend" just tell her that you really dont want to because it would be to awkward.
Hope that helps a little
Amanda
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yeah you need to let her go because that does not sound like a good best friend to me... the point is, you've made an effort to try and get her back into you're life and the result...she treats you like crap...that is not cool
so let her go, dont acknowledge her, call her, talk to her, dont even look at her! part of the reason why shes enjoying this so much is probably because she knows that its bothering you so much! once you show her that you dont really care anymore then she'll eventually realized how she screwed up... her best friend left her once, she'll most likely do it again and then who will you're best friend be left with?
i mean, you've tried and now its just time to move on,get better friends and take the time to find your true self :)
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Let it go. If she cant be friends with both of you then thats not a real friend. When you dont let this situation bother you so much then you will feel better about yourself. Just give up and find a new true best friend. Dont even give her the time of day, and if something happens and she tries to get back in your life tell her that you have found real friends.
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