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sex, virginity, and pregnancy
Ok so I am planning on having sex with my friend and I'm a virgin. I am not on birth control (and there is no way I can get it so don't tell me I should). I need some good tips on how to not get pregnant. We will be using a condom of course but is that enough? Should he where 2 in case one pops? Anthing is good. I can't wind up pregnant or my parents will kill me (don't tell me not to do it either because I already made up my mind). Also, if you still haven't figured it out yet, I am a complete virgin. He isn't and I want this to be great for him (don't tell me to get ourselves checked either). How do I make it last and feel good (and by that I mean both of us having an orgasm) because I have heard that the first time usually hurts.
THANKS SO MUCH TO EVERYONE THAT CAN HELP. AND PLEASE HURRY BECAUSE THIS COULD HAPPEN AT ANY TIME.
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sorry, its late to respond.
Just use one.
and make sure he goes slow.
let me know how everything went
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Hey sweetie..
Ok first, dont wear 2 condoms!!
That would not be good.
Just one.
And dont worry im pretty sure hes stoked that hes gonna be having sex with a virgin.
Well just like start off by making out and then let him finger you some and then give him a blow job but dont let him cum just tease him a little and then give him a striptease and then start having sex and start off with missionary (which is just him on top) because you dont have to do that much work and you can tell him what to do - or if you want to be in control then get on top of him, most guys love that..
And no the first time doesnt really hurt..
Just as long as you are ready for it and you want it..
Yeah make sure your really wet.
And have fun.
Dont try to be all sexy and act like a porn star because its alot hotter if a girl is having fun with it.
And best of luck.
And dont try to worry about getting pregnant.
You have a very slim chance.
Anyways, again good luck.
Have fun.
<3
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hi(:
using two condoms is most definitely NOT a good idea because that can cause both of the condoms to break. so just use one. it's said that if a girl is on top she's more then likely not going to get pregnant. to be safe before he cums you could ask him to pull out, even if he has a condom on, just in case it does break or something like that.
also, i'm not sure if you have a regular period cycle but if you do, you should have sex either when you're on your period, or about ten days after that. i'm not sure if you know about this, but you're more likely to get pregnant 14 days after your first day of your period and 14 days before your next period. so just make sure you're not having sex on your more fertile days. if you get confused by this, just let me know and i'll fix my answer.
the first time can vary immensely it just depends on what girl you're asking. my first time i wasn't even worrying about it hurting, i was worrying about him and wondering if he felt okay and stuff. when you're actually there in the moment, you don't really worry about it hurting. and when he sticks it in, either you or him have to rub your clit so that you can orgasm. i'm not sure what you can change on his side, because i'm sure it'll feel good no matter what.
good luck!
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As the user below said, using two condoms is actually a lot riskier than one. The friction caused by the two condoms rubbing together is likely to cause a tear, increasing the risk of sperm getting through and you getting pregnant.
Condoms are 98% effective if used correctly. This means that about 2 out 100 women a year will get pregnant even if they use them. If you are not prepared to use another form of birth control, then they are your safest bet. Instructions will be included on the packet and it's advisable to read through them a couple of times before the event and follow them carefully. Putting a condom on wrong could increase your chances of pregnancy.
If something does go wrong, for example the condom tears, the best thing to do would be to stop as soon as you notice. If you are worried that you may have become pregnant, the last remaining option is emergency contraception (the morning after pill), which is effective up to 72 hours after sex.
You mention that your friend is not a virgin, I really do encourage you to talk to him first about his sexual history and get checked out if he's in any doubt about his previous partners. Although condoms protect against most STD's, there are some, such as Genital Herpes and Pubic Lice, which can still be passed on.
In truth, you are unlikely to find that your first time is as amazing as you expect. It's not how it's portrayed in films, all shooting stars and fireworks. In reality it's messy, sticky and can be downright embarassing.
The chances are that your first time will hurt, but you can make things more comfortable for you by using a lubricant (although make sure that it is water based as oil based can cause condoms to tear), taking things slowly and gently and ensuring that you are entirely comfortable with each other.
Take it slow, make sure that there is a lot of foreplay before hand, as you will both need this to reach a high enough state of arousal. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with and don't be afraid to call a halt to it if you change your mind.
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Wearing one condom is much safer than wearing two - two condoms rub against each other, and the friction can cause them to pop or tear. Make sure that you have a clear understanding of how condoms work. You can buy these over the counter and practice at home.
The tip needs to be squeezed before and during the condom is rolled onto the penis - if air is left in this, the condom can pop from the force of the boy's ejaculation.
There is also only one correct way to roll the condom down. If you or your friend make a mistake and put it on backwards, you will need to throw that condom away and start again with a fresh one. This is because the boy's precum would have touched the condom, and when you flipped it around you would be putting that into you.
Also make sure your fingernails (or his) are short without rough edges, to avoid tearing the condom.
Your first time is likely to hurt. To reduce the pain, use lubricated condoms. You may also consider a water-based lubricant. Make sure you are relaxed and turned on, otherwise things could be more uncomfrtable than they need to be. Worrying about pregnancy can make you not feel excited, and your body may react by clamping shut.
Have you considered all your options for getting birth control? There are loads of different kinds, and depending on where you live you may be able to access services free and confidentially. A condom is fab as it can help reduce the chances of pregnancy AND the transmission of an infection, but backing it up with another form is always good too.
As far as not wanting to get checked, if you have never been sexually active (which includes oral sex), you should be fine. If your friend has had sex, you may want to consider him getting checked out. Various infections can make you infertile, be painful, cause death, or have different consequences on your body. This is your health and future, so keep yourself as safe as possible.
After sex, if you want to have another go, use another condom! It's best if the boy pulls out just after ejaculating, and he will need to hold the condom at the base of his penis to make sure it doesn't slip out. If this sounds complex, get a pack of condoms and a carrot or cucumber and try it out beforehand.
I wish you the best.
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