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Your Thoughts on Interracial Relationships
Hi, my name's Rae. I'm 18 years old, female, and I'm of 100% Korean decent. I have the most amazing fiance, Christian. He's 19, male, and super Irish (He even has red hair!). Anyways, the point that I'm trying to get at is that we're obviously different nationality wise. We're in an interracial relationship and a lot of people seem to be bothered by it! I honestly don't understand what's so wrong with us. We love eachother and I don't think your ethnicity or skin color have anything to do with it. So, I was wondering what kind of opinions any of you have about this subject matter. All advice is welcome, but please be serious and honest. Thank you!
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With all the social commentaries and political correctness going on in today's society, most of these advicenators have got it right: Love is what counts. I would say 18/19 is a little young for marriage, but it does happen.
Skin color is social, love is emotional. In this respect, it's okay for interracial relationships. As for me personally, I despise the word. Race? WTF does that matter? The heart has no color. We are all people and we all have the same emotions. We all create and develop relationships.
And even though interracial couples are given the most attention (and difficulty), the same could be said of good friends. It's not about what they look like, it's about who they are. Some people are more comfortable with people who do the same activities, listen to the same music, wear the same cloths or look the same as they do. I don't admire those who say "I have this friend who's black..." or "I have this friend who's white..." But I admire those who see their friends for who they are, and say "I have this friend..." And then you meet them, and they are just as great as what was said.
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Honestly, Race and ethinticity is a big part of todays society. Not eveyone belives in the mix of races like you an your fiance. It probably isnt ever going to change.Its a huge part of who everybody is.There will always be somebody with a prejudice.All you really can do is to try and ignore it. If somebody doesn't agree they can look away.
I will admit i personally wouldnt mingle with another race because of my family and how i feel about me and it personaly, but I have no problem with other people doing what they feel like and makes them happy as long as they love eachother its the inside that counts, and it isnt like there relationship would b hurting anyone elses health right.
I wish the best to you and fiance, dont let little things like this get to you. Just stay positve and ignore the 'haters'
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It doesn't matter what I think...what difference does it make to you---
Nothing.
You're in love with him...and that's all that matters. :) Who cares about what everyone else says. As long as YOU'RE happy, you shouldn't care about what others think.
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from my experience as i am also in an inter racial relationship is that for some reason people are uncomfortable with it this is most likely because it is something newer to us and some people tend to be hard headed and set in their ways and still think their own race is superior so they see it as an embarrassment if someone of their own "superior" race becomes involved with someone of a different race all of this is foolish and you really shouldnt let it affect you and your happieness i wish you good luck and i hope i gave you some answers
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Interracial relationships don't bother me in the slightest. Some people notice skin color (actually most people probably do) but I really don't notice it any more than I would "Oh hey, so-and-so has red hair" or "Ryan has really nice blue eyes". If two people get along and want to date, I don't see why their nationality/skin color should even be a factor at all.
If YOU approve of your relationship, that's all that really matters. Someone else's negative thoughts (oh, you're a different race so your relationship is wrong, etc.) shouldn't influence you. And since you're engaged to this guy, I don't think they have.
Your fiance makes you happy, and you love each other. It's really all that matters. Don't let other people get to you. I wish both of you the best of luck =)
-LM
[16/f]
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My opinion?
Who cares what others think?
If they think something is wrong with it, then that's their own folly.
I don't think it's right to slap racial boundaries on love.
Are you guys bothered by it?
Do you think there's something wrong with it?
That is all that matters.
Not what THEY think.
It's your life to live and be happy with, not that one couple who gave rude stares and behind the hand whispers in Walmart.
ygs-29/f
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The only opinion that I have on this subject is that any kind of love should be permitted and accepted. It doesn't necessarily mean that everyone will agree with it, because of their personal beliefs, but love is love. It doesn't matter if you're African American, British, Irish, Asian, Russian, Caucasian, WHATEVER. It seems like some are forgetting what we all are in the beginning, people, human beings.
I believe in ANY kind of love.
I wish you the best of luck. :)
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