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So here's the thing...
I'm a freshman, 15. All my friends are having sex with their boyfriends, I want to have sex with my boyfriend...but I'm scared you could say of getting pregnant, there are so many risks.. But I really wanna do it. Am I too young? Should I do it, cuz I do love my boyfriend alot? I'm just so confused.
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If your worried about getting pregnant then your way to young. Just kiss your boyfriend and hang out with him. You dont have to have sex with him. But do what you think is best. It might be a good idea to talk it over with him. If you guys have a good relationship then you should have no problem talking that over with him.
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Personally unless you think this relationship is going anywhere you shouldn't have sex with him. I know its hard but its worth waiting...and you shouldn't do something just cause all your friends are..their are many risk to having sex...and then their is the whole what happens if he tells his friends...then will you be labeled something bad..I would hold off on it...I know its hard..but its also really smart and you are also torn up about this witch also shows that you should wait a little bit more. Good luck hope this helps, and who ever he is he is a lucky guy to have you ^_^.
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if you have to ask, you're too young.
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Peer pressure can be one hard driver. A lot of people have thought they wanted to do things because other people are all doing it. You need to make sure you are ready. You need to ask yourself if you would want to do it if all of your friends were in the same situation as you. It is perfectly normal to be scared on your first time but if you feel you want to go into it, there are a few things you can do to avoid pregnancy.
Go on birth control pills.
Have him wear a condom (which is the better of the two for now because it also protects you from STI's (Sexually transmitted infections)
There is also the option of the morning after pill if something DOES go wrong, so try not to worry, there are many options to keep yourself protected.
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well, (like everyone else i'm gonna tell you the truth...) you shouldn't do it because everyone else is, do it when your ready..blah, blah, more to worry about, stds, blah, blah. yeah so anyway, --now that thats over-- =] if you truly deep down in your heart love or like your boyfriend a lot and you've talked about it, then thats okay. but you need to make sure you want to and it sounds like you do but if none of your friends were to be doing it..would you do it? thats what the real question is here, it sounds kind of like you only really care about this because your the only one not doing it. but if you were the only one doing it, would you have done it in the first place? also, many people who have sex for the first time later regreat it. you don't want your first time to be like that. plus, you might want to start birth control, because even though you use a condom it might break and there is a small % that the condom won't work and sperm can go through it. you need to also be aware if your boyfriend is ready, sometimes--not in most cases but sometimes-- the guy isn't ready but the girl can preasure them into doing something they're not ready for. I feel as though once you take all of these facts into consideration you will make the right choice. Ohh...i almost forgot make sure your boyfriend--if not a virgin-- gets tested for an std. you don't want to get one from one wrong move, one sentence that you could have said to know. but anyway, research may help, but not nessicarily because everyone is different so what happens to one person may not happen to another let alone you.
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pregnancy shouldnt be your only worry there other things like stds and what not and if you are thinking in the secne of the future. your future husband rite would you like to tell him how many people you had sex with at 15 or tell him i waited for you cuz i loved you when i was 15 and now. i assure you that it will break your heart that you didnt wait. just really think about it. are you ready because your friends "are" or are you ready becuase you know this is they guy your going to marry and love for the rest of your life.
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I'm 15 too, and I know what it's like to be surrounded by people who always want to have sex. The thing is, some people aren't as lucky, and the condom does break sometimes, or maybe you'll just get lost in the heat of the moment and will forget to put on a condom at all. I don't want you to have sex because of everyone else. I want you to have sex when -----> YOU <----- feel comfortable. Yeah, it may seem like tons of fun and something that will make you grow closer to your boyfriend. I have hormones too, and I've always had those urges. Everyone does. But what lays ahead [the consequences] might not turn out to be so much fun in the end. A lot can go wrong. Maybe you won't get pregnant, but what if you got an STD? You're stuck with an STD FOREVER. There's no magical cure to erase it. I've always personally believed in having sex at LEAST after the age of 17. Maybe not until marriage, but at least until you have some wisdom and sensibility through what you've experienced. I've heard of sex also hurting the first time too. There are plenty of ways to relieve those urges inside of you. You can try a new kissing method with your boyfriend, maybe you guys can do a little dry humping. Dry humping almost feels like sex, but it comes without the potential baby, STD, and you don't have to use a condom. A little foreplay doesn't hurt either. You're right when you say that there are so many risks. It's better to be safe than sorry. I don't want to sound like your mom here [BE SAFE HUNNY!], but your virginity is gone once it's taken. There's no second chance.
Please, if you decide to engage in sex, I want you to maybe talk to an older cousin or an older friend who has already had it, if you are not comfortable with talking to your mom [who would?]. The number one thing is to DO YOUR RESEARCH. Have your boyfriend wear a condom, AND!! you should take birth control. You can get birth control without the consent of your parents at Planned Parenthood.
Please do your research. Look up potential risks of sex on Google. Know what you are doing before you are doing it.
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don't do it just because everyone else is doing it, do it when your ready. and as long as you take precautions like wearing a condom and/or starting to take birth control pills you shouldn't be too afraid of pregnancy
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