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boyfriend lying
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, and lately we've been going through a hard time. I thought I could trust him, but like I have issues with sites like myspace and facebook and stuff like that because of things that have happened in the past. But like he was having a hard time of having his friends know about me so I asked him if he would change his status on facebook to in a relationship. After a while of trying to convince him, he finally did. That was a few months ago though and the other day I looked on his facebook and it said single... I feel like he's maybe trying to tell other girls that he's free and stuff but I don't know. And like I also asked him if he wouldn't use it that much anymore and the last week I had a feeling he was using it still, and I asked him if he was using it and he lied straight to my face and said no. But then tonight I wanted to see if it was true and it wasn't... he was on it..and like I don't know. I'm in love with him, but like... I can't trust him online..
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Dump him. if you can't trust him online, you can't trust him anywheres.
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Wait, how old are you again? You don't have a right to tell him not to use his myspace or facebook. It's not illegal, so you either need to grow up and realize that people just irk you sometimes, or you need a little bit of FAITH in your man.
"And like I also asked him if he wouldn't use it that much anymore and the last week I had a feeling he was using it still, and I asked him if he was using it and he lied straight to my face and said no."
If YOU DON'T KNOW that doesn't mean he's LYING. Get that straight.
"But then tonight I wanted to see if it was true and it wasn't... he was on it..and like I don't know."
How exactly, do you know he was on it? Did you have a polaroid of him? And besides, if you asked him
"-And like I also asked him if he wouldn't use it that much anymore"
(Not only is that the most insecure and stupidest thing I've heard all week so far) THAT MUCH means sometimes is okay with you. Get over it. You aren't his mother and you aren't his wife.
Trust him, get over yourself, or move on.
[I'll enjoy your twelve year old smartass remark in my feedback when you rate me low, too. Have a lovely day, sweetheart.]
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Hi,
While it is wrong that he would lie to you and maybe slightly strange he insists on setting his status as 'single' - you don't have the right to tell him what he is and is not allowed to do! If you bring issues from the past into a new relationship it's a recipe for disaster.
I don't really think it matters what your boyfriends up to - guilty or innocent you don't feel able to trust him (and maybe your not ready to trust anyone just yet) and so you really need to consider if you should be in this relationship at all.
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yeah, if he keeps doing that, i would dump him... seriously... hes not a man at all. i wouldnt be surprised if he was 15.... thats terrible...
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You are completely right to be suspicious of someone you claims to be single on an internet networking site.
How much time he spends on the site it really his business, in my opinion. However, if he is lying to strangers about his relationship status, that is a big no no.
And lying to you, is even worse.
Tell him you expect him to advertise himself as he truly his: Taken. If he can't do that, he will find himself suddenly honest, and single.
A loyal guy has no reason to lie about his relationship status. Tell him as much, straight up.
Then, even if he does change his profile, you might want to consider how much you really want to be with someone who couldn't figure that out on thier own. Love is great, but no ammount of love makes your partner loyal.
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