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i've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now and we've been having sex for about 10 months. like the sex is good but i don't think i'm cumming during sex? and whats the difference between cumming by clit & gspot? how's an orgasm and cumming different? i feel good during sex, but just don't reach a climax... like ever. help me please!
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cumming for a girl isnt like cumming for a boy. so dont expect something what happens to your boyfriend to happen to you. a clit climax and a gspot one is just waht stimulates the climax. it may feel different but nothing different is going to happen. and as for not climaxin all the advice i can give you is relax. it might help. and use protection : )
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well cumming is usualy just used from a guy because a females orgasm usualy does not make you squirt or anything. they usualy ask if your "cumming". if you have never had an orgasm the best adivce i have for you is to find out what you like. this means masterbation. if you dont do this then you wotn be able to tell when your aroused compared to just enjoying the sex and what to tell him so that you both enjoy it more. this means either you can do it by yourself or if you cant get in the mood by yourself then do it with him without having sex. take it slow and you dont have to always have SEX to have an orgasm. and if you dont have orgasms while having sex then you might have better luck with your clit. try that. i dont really want to get too explicit on here... but if you want to know ways of doign that you can look up on the internet or just send it to my inbox... but either way i hope that helped
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OK...I do hope that you are old enough to hear this info. You were smart to not list your age cause most people won't tell you too much if you are too young. I am going to assume you are 18 or over. The first thing you need to know is that not all women cum regularly during sex. Cumming is anytime the wet secretion comes out of your vagina. Sometimes it is a little and sometimes it is a lot. Some times it comes out a little at a time in a constant flowing pattern and sometimes it squirts out when you are really excited. With my first boyfriend and one other guy I slept with I had to use KY jelly cause my vagina hadn't been opened up yet...I was still new to sex. I had only had it a few times and my boyfriend wasn't like HUGE so it took some time to give a little. The more it gives the more you will be able to have the cum come out. What you need to find out is if you are a cummer or if you aren't. You can achieve this answer through masturbation. When you think that you can't take anymore, take some more, and when you think you are done, give it to your self some more and this way you will open up sexually. Then your body will start to cum more if you are a cummer. If you aren't then maybe you should try some KY Jelly.
Now The difference between Clitoral orgasm and vaginal...If your boyfriend gives you head (licks your VV) or plays with it and this makes you feel way better than when he sticks it in...which is how I am...then you are a clit girl...if on the other hand you need to feel his penis inside of you then hey you are a vaginal girl. Let's say this...if my boyfriend had surgery on his penis and we couldn't have penial sex for a few weeks I would be ok cause his tounge and fingers are MORE THAN ENOUGH for me! But some girls are not like that. They have to feel the penis or they wont feel GREAT! The G-Spot is like your personal spot I believe. It is at a certain angle inside of you where when he sticks it in you just don't even want him to stop. Sometimes it takes some time for you to open up for him to be able to go into you that deep and for it to feel good. The more my guy and I have sex the deeper he can go. That wall that get's hit when he can't go anymore, and he's pumping it really hard *blush* And you are like WOW! That is the G-Spot.
Now...Cumming and orgasm...I told you earlier what the cumming was...NOW ORGASM! WOW
well there are 7 different levels of orgasm...I can't remember what they are but I read about them in a Kama Sutra book. The highest leve is when your body is completly and totally relaxed you feel like you can't even move. Like someone would have to pick you up. then you are like breathing deeply, you turn into like this sexual animal. You Scream and you SCREAM LOUD! and a lot of times you grip him really really tight. And you can't even talk. You are like sluring your speech. That is an orgasm. Also, orgasm for men is different, they do not do the whole screaming thing hahaha at least not to my knowledge...you will have to ask them about their orgasm.
Now:How to experience this Orgasm:
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ok...The first thing I suggest is..if you can get your hands on one of those showers that you can pull off and hold by the handle...you know and move it all around your body and adjust the nozel...if you can get one of those or take a shower in a place that has one of those, then do it! What you are going to do is, take the nozel, put it on vibrate and then put it on your VV. move it in and out and all around and then move it around your body. Massage your back with it your boobies, nipples...put the water in your mouth and let it vibrate in there and the put it back on your VV. Let it vibrate on your thighs and feel and everything. Where ever feels good for you. Then when you think you can't handle it on your vagina anymore tell your self to take it! Take it! And keep going. Your body is going to be like WOW! Then you are going to cum sooooo much! and after all that cum comes out you are going to like fall over in the shower and that will be the orgasm. You will know it.
Now taking that back in the bedroom. You both gotta find time during the sex to play around...you can give him head, then when he is feeling like he is about to cum stop and let him give you head. keep doing this...take some time and 69....then go back to this rotation. Them don't cum. This is when you start to have sex. Communicate...if he is doing something you don't like, tell him, if you like it tell him, Moan and let him know how strong and big he is and what a sex god he is and how no other guy can make you feel this good. Role Play! Pretend he is Zeus and you are some little servent girl to some wicked king and he comes in and takes you away to mount Olympus and gives you the best kinkiest screw of your life. Get A KAMA SUTRA BOOK AND FOLLOW IT WHILE YOU ARE HAVING SEX! IT IS GREAT! One with big clear pictures that is easy to turn and you don't have to hold it open, it stays open on it's own. The best way to reach orgasm is everytime you think you are giong to cum...stop and breath and get your self collected again, then start up again. Keep doing this stuff and experiment with the books. I used to give ok hand jobs and I hated it, Now I i give the best friggin hand jobs in the world. The guys roll over and turn and hold me and grab my head and scream my name and everything, just from taking some pointers out of a book. If you want some more advice and want to tell me mroe about your situation... hit me up. Check out these websites too...
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