Please help if you can... Lately I hate myself. I hate who I am and everything I do. Everyone sees me as a happy person who loves her life, but inside I'm torn apart. I cry nonstop anymore when I'm alone. Everything in my life goes wrong. The one person who I always trusted to love me and like me for me unconditionally(ie MYSELF) ... has given up on me. Yes..I've given up on myself. One of my best friends moved away a few months ago... she never let me know how to get ahold ofher... I just gave her my number and she said she'd called me... haven't heard from her since. Now my absolute best friend is moving. I don't know how I'm going to live without her. She's the only person who has every believed in me. After she leaves I don't know what I'll do. I just feel like killing myself anymore... And I can't even do that right... because I'm so afraid of die ing that i couldn't do it. I have a feeling this is what depression is... which is what my mother suffers from. She just tells me not to tell anyone, because they will just want to give me pills. I told her I was thinking of killing myself and she just said no youren ot... I don't know what to do. What can you do when you start feeling like you're all alone in the world? thank you so much... even for just readin all of this.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Health & Fitness category? Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health? Ugo answered Saturday February 9 2008, 9:25 am: Please don’t follow through with any thoughts of killing yourself; you will crush a lot of people who care about you. It is not the answer. It seems that you have picked on a number of issues to be legitimately sad about. Everything in life has an opposite, this means there should be a number of things in your life that you should be legitimately happy about. Bad things happen in everyone’s life, and its okay. Work on spending some energy on the positives in your life, it is through focusing on the positives that people gain the strength to persevere through challenging times. Positives in your life don’t have to be grandiose; they can be as simple as your looks, your smarts, your favorite pet, your siblings, a favorite book, and any thing positive you can think of.
You are right, this does sound like depression, and you need to seek help. It concerns me that your mum is resistant to you receiving professional help. One thing you might want to let her know is that even if a professional recommends you take medication, it will not happen unless she gives the okay. (Assuming you are under 18.)
Please don’t hurt yourself, and good luck. [ Ugo's advice column | Ask Ugo A Question ]
ChevyIINova answered Friday February 8 2008, 10:32 pm: Just remember there's people out there who care and want you to be happy. I care or else I wouldn't reply. If you feel you can't go on, go to your local hospital ER and get help. The folks there care too, that's why they are in that business. I really don't know the underlying issues to why you've given up but, seems you feel everything is crashing around you. It's funny how life does that sometimes and you've got little control over situations. My advice to you is to seek professional help ASAP. If your friend is moving, get their new number, address whatever and keep in touch. Try getting out of the house and hanging out somewhere new. There's bound to be folks wanting to hang out and chill. I've suffered from depression for years and trust me there's sometimes nothing anyone can say to "snap" you out of it. There's help if you want it, todays drugs work great! LOL Just remember some folks do care and worry about you. [ ChevyIINova's advice column | Ask ChevyIINova A Question ]
xOaAlLiIeE answered Friday February 8 2008, 10:31 pm: wow, well i've been feeling exactly the same way, but instead of moving away, my friends have all decided to gang up on me. first, if you can, i think you should see a psychiatrist, or keep track of your feelings in a journal. it helps to let it all out even when youre not telling your best friend. also, hang out with some new people. maybe theres someone in one of your classes that you've never talked to? it'll help to have a support group when your friend moves away. and about your other friend, if she hasnt called you, call her! if you dont have her number, then im sorry. honestly, dont give up on yourself. things go wrong, but life goes on [: talk to a counselor or someone else you can trust, if they can't help you than at least you can get some things off your chest. i hope everything goes well for you and that my advice helps.[: [ xOaAlLiIeE's advice column | Ask xOaAlLiIeE A Question ]
Uniq_The_Geek answered Friday February 8 2008, 10:25 pm: wow mama keep your head up. you are not alone and it's something common. crying isn't bad, but i you're crying everyday non stop someone has to put a stop to it b/c it's not fair for someone to suffer. about your best friends, sometimes things happen. if she was your real friend she'd be in contact with you even if it was over AiM or something. i dont understand why she wouldn't want to contact you. and about your other bestie moving, jus try to make a pact that you guys will alwaysz keep in touch. sometimes you have to let things go and if it comes back you already know (took that from a song hehe) but its very true. dont give up on yourself, i bet you have something to live for. especially your mom who needs you. life as a teen is so overwhelming which is why im understanding the position that you're in. i suggest that if you have any REAL trustworthy friends that you talk to them, those around you are the ones who can support you. and they need to understand you're human and have your days where you're not happy and cheery. its human nature to get mad sad hyper etc. just reach out for someone. a friend close to you whom is not moving possibly? hope everything works out mama and my inbox is always open
orphans answered Friday February 8 2008, 10:24 pm: Awwww oh my gosh, I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way and that both of your best friends are moving away, but you should really talk to someone. Just because your mom is telling you not to tell anyone, that is NOT a good idea at all. You should talk to a teacher, guidance counselor, psycologist, psychiatrist or other family member. Depression is serious, and it can become a major burden to you and the people around you. Not telling anyone about this, and keeping your feelings bottled up inside you is going to make your life even more of a living hell, and who wants that? And killing yourself, isn't the way to go either, just think of all the people who will miss you and the effect it could have on lives besides your own, everyone would be devestated. I'm listening to you, I want to help you, but you have to help yourself. Please talk to someone, call this number:
1-800-273-TALK (8255)
--it's free of charge and you recieve help immediatley. And you're not alone in the world, you have your family and me and the help of your teachers and friends. Don't give up when life gets hard, because you're a great person. Don;t forget that.
Good luckk sweetheart [ orphans's advice column | Ask orphans A Question ]
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