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My ex girl freind
Ok me and my ex have been broke up since Nov 14th, I love her so much! but she is going out with another guy now who treats her like shit!! he doesnt even really love her. I want her back so much! me and my freind oliver were talking and he said "man she just told me like a week ago that she was finaly over you". the other night me and her were talking about our romantic memories i could name off 5 in great detail, but she couldnt. She has started to smoke to and I HATE smokers. And she said that its an escape. But i really just think she is doing it cause her new boyfreind is, and hes a loser. I dont know what to do, i said told her that i thought i knew what the problem was, it was that i boerd her. And she said yeah i think it was, not trying to be a bitch. She said there was something about me that she still likes, it was that i held her. I dont really like that fact that me and her did nothing but she has oral sex with her new boy freind, but her told me she isnt going to loss her virginity to him. I just dont know what to do! help me! Im really consirned about the smoking, cause they wont be together for to much longer i know that and she might get addicted. So how can i help get her back and get her off smoking?
Btw she is a stuborn 15 year old who wont listen to anything, she will if i make a really strong point without getting mad. thanks
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well if she said that shes over you than shes over you but that all depends on how long it took her to get with this other guy, but you sound cute but you should try to move in but if you can't then you should wiat till her and the other guy brake up and before some other guy askes her out you need to do it first. but you should talk 2 me i can make u feel better but only on line sorry.
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It's pretty safe to say that she has moved on. Anything now you try to do to get her back will only make you look desperate and undesirable. She's made mistakes lately, but she'll have to figure this out on her own.
The best thing you can do now is move on. Stop talking and seeing her if you are having trouble just being her friend/acquaintance/ex. Moving on, making lots of friends, gaining new hobbies, whatever - all that will likely make you more desirable to her than if you sit around waiting for her to come back to you.
If you wanted to make a strong point, you could always try saying something like "Look, it's okay that you've moved on and have a boyfriend now that we're broken up. But I'm worried about you because you've started smoking, and I'm worried about the way he's treated you. I'm worried that even though you may not be with this guy forever, you could be addicted to cigarettes for a long time. I care about you and don't want you to get hurt." If she doesn't listen to you, move on and find someone a little less immature.
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All I can tell you is that it is extremely hard to change someone, especially for the better. I'm sure you are concerned that she is a smoker due to health reasons, and the fact that she seems to be doing it just because her current boyfriend is. But the fact is that people who start off on the wrong path often get lost- to the point that outside help is of little use.
She may very well wake up one day and think that she was wrong to have gone out with this guy and taken up smoking. But for now, it seems to me that she's just your average immature 15 year-old who is trying to fit in and act older. She might not ever want to get back together with you (or maybe she does, I don't know), but if she matures enough , then in time she will see she was wrong.
You are right to be concerned, but if you are overbearing with her, then she is not going to listen to you. You might want to have a talk with her and express your concern, but you can not force her to change, she has to wake up on her own. That will definitely take some time, but maybe eventually she will come to her senses (or not). There's only so much you can do. Just let her know that you are concerned about what she is doing, and possibly the new path she is taking with her boyfriend. And end it there. If she is willing to open her eyes, she will. If she isn't, it really isn't your problem, but hers.
By the way, as I like to say, a hole is a hole. Oral SEX, is still sex (albeit not traditional vaginal sex, but still).
Oh, yes, and to add- you mentioned she's stubborn- it might be part of who she is, or just a product of her teenage years (probably both), so don't get your hopes up too much. You do your part, and the rest is entirely up to her.
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wow well she needs to grow up (no offense). if you try and talk to her chances are she will ignore the advice for the simple fact that you're not her boyfriend. i suggest you show her the consequences on following what others do and help her open her eyes with the info you know. good luck and i hope she follows the right path hun,
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